Made a change to overcome approach anxiety, how'd you do it?



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 26, 2015 6:56 am 
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Hello all PUA's around the world

How are yuh?

Just trying to bring the vibe up haha

Anyway today i have a couple questions for you guys/undercover girls


Yesterday night i made a change in my life that i would NO longer stand not approaching girls, manly beautiful ones or ones i find personally really attractive, anymore

I got tired of rejecting myself you can say and leaving myself lonely and having my anxieties up filled with regrets

Even when i tried in the past, i still had the anxiety

I realized it HAS to be a daily thing otherwise the anxiety just comes back

Also that most of it is just in your head, but i still NEED some experience and understanding

So my question for you guys is..
How did you guys overcome your approach anxiety? How long did it take? What methods did you use?
What helped you the most?

So far i approach 3 women today and all went pretty good, made them langh and smile, one was nervous, which i thought was interesting, hopefully i wasn't creeping her out haha

Just to practice/get some experience

Anyway guys i made a goal to overcome this approach anxiety because i'm TIRED of it and in my GUT it tells me i would meet a'lot of interesting people with many opportunities and its something i have a passion for learning/overcoming

Also hopefully i meet someone real special which is one of my main reasons for acquiring this skill haha

Thanks guys :mrgreen:


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PostPosted: Fri Feb 27, 2015 2:25 pm 
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A few things I did. First off, I should point out I started doing this a while ago when Mystery Method ranked supreme for the most part and some of my ideas may be a little old school but they can work.

1. Go up and open everyone! Don't worry about anything other than opening a set and go away and open someone else. Open people you pass on the street, open people in your venue, the gas station, the grocery store, (maybe not the men's room), but open everyone! The goal isn't to worry about the rest of the process just get used to approaching and opening without thinking too much. Talk to men, women, groups, little old ladies, probably not kids, but you get the idea. Use indirect openers, direct openers, shock openers, high fives, blowout openers, or whatever is up your alley.

2. Go into sets for a few days or nights with the sole mission to stay there no matter what until they ask you to leave. No matter how awkward things get, even if you run out of material just stand there. Do everything in your power to say shit to get blown out. Doing this you'll eventually realize just how tolerant people actually are and how much latitude you actually have. The idea is most people have anxiety because they think I'm in a mine field one false move or step and BOOM it is over.

The truth is a lot different from that overall, you can mess up a lot, say a lot of weird f'd up stuff and stay in set. It will also get you use to the pressure of the moment and what its like to be silent. You getting more used to that pressure makes it easy to ask questions and shut up waiting for a response forcing others to talk, because they feel that same pressure themselves to fill every moment with words. But don't take my word for it find out for yourself.

It helped me and was eye opening at the same time. It requires some serious effort and work but it does help.

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PostPosted: Fri Feb 27, 2015 11:53 pm 
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You know when it comes to dealing with approach anxiety, there's a lot of advice out there, from
approaching women and asking for time, to asking for direction and similar stuff.

But I personally believe that the only way to really get over your approach anxiety is
to actually go out and approach women.

When you do what you're afraid, eventually you desensitize yourself from the thing you were afraid.

Now when you go out and want to approach women, one thing will amplify your anxiety more than
anything, and that is your MIND.

Your MIND is your enemy. It's that voice that comes into your head when you want to approach.

It's the voice that tells you: "You're not good enough, she's better than you, she will reject you, others
are watching you'll get embarrassed"
etc.

Your first task should be to learn to CONCUR your mind and not listen to it when it gives you that kind
of stuff.

Then, after you see her, walk up to her and approach. If it doesn't go well, learn to discipline
yourself and not make it about yourself.

And then do it again. And again, and again and eventually you won't feel any anxiety anymore.

With that being said, if you feel you'd like a more systematic approach to eliminating your approach
anxiety, then I invite you and anyone reading this to join my test group, where I'm testing a technique
that eliminates your AA in under an hour. Details in the signature.

Hope these pointers help,

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PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2015 10:16 am 
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Yeah I realized it has to be an everyday thing until it's natural for you.

I used to be able to approach really cute girl but not average or even ugly girls for some reason. Now I can't even approach asking a legit question. But I'm getting better day by day


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