Rockets88 You seem like you know what you're doing. Are you asking advice on how to make a flaky Girl non flaky after she's displayed flaky behavior?

With texts when they go silent I usually wait a week then follow up with something to hook them into a conversation which you already know. I think you fucked up when you didn't arrange the date while you had her hooked that last time. So now your stuck in a cycle of text text text, ask for a date, silence, wait, text text text, and ask for a date... You're getting impatient, and you're even contemplating calling and leaving a chump voicemail.

I bet the problem is your transition from the normal texting to the meet up. Care to post your "solid" text chain?

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This is going to hurt my fingers:

Her: lmao i was working when you sent that message and didn't even know i had a message
Her: I just got your envelope hahahah it was awesome
Me: Word. I hope yo use your voucher soon
Her: And coke
Her: No contest
Me: Ha nice. By the way Pepsi > coke
Her: Thats ridic
Me: (Picture of guitar) Mountain Dew. best drink ever made. Made by Pepsi. Nuff said. Check out my new baby girl i just brought home from Guitar Center. She needs a name hmmm....
Her: Who do you work for again?
Her: Mountain Ddew is the absolute best so i will give you that
Me: Glad we agree on something. I am a ___ for ____

Two days later
Me: So i bought a voodoo doll from a magic shop. If Iggy Azalaea is found dead tomorrow it wasn't me... How was your weekend?
Her: Lmao send a pic of it
Her: It was good. I had off (which never happens) so i got to get some hours in at the SPCA and went to a bingo game for my sisters team lol.. How was yours?
Me: Ill show it you in person one day. Weekends off are the best, mine was dope. Went a party with some friends. Hey when are you free this week Kristen? It would be nice to see your face and go on adventure that may or may not include ice skating and waffles


No response from there. I deleted the first text messages I had with her so thats all i have on my phone at the moment. Comments concerning my messages and strategy would be appreciated for future reference. I guess i'll hit this girl up next week with a text and talk some more through text. Its hard breaking this cycle of flakingness since its begun >.<

At this point, instead of answering her question I would have made up some ridiculous joke job, or feigned like I was hurt that she doesn't remember, and teased her about it. I don't know for sure, but it seems like a compliance test. She then verified my suspicion that it was a test you failed by not texting you anymore.

Your texting is solid I can give you that.

I think the first time you just simply failed a test and her attraction dropped. When you waited and didn't send a bunch of desperate shit, and then re-initiated the contact in a fun way her attraction spiked for you again.

Unfortunately, it also informed her that she can simply ignore you and you'll eventually crawl back to her without any consequences. These types of girls get no respect from me because that's some disrespectful ass behavior.

The second chain, you may have actually transitioned a little too quickly for her tastes. With the silence she went cold, and the little attraction spike wasn't enough to get her out with you.

Wait a little while, use another attraction spike to get her to respond, build comfort/arousal over the text messages, be wary of compliance tests, and still transition into a meetup the same day she responds to you.

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I appreciate the advice and analysis on my game.
I will wait a week and hit her back up.
Its incredibly nit picky that she is just not compliant with me asking her out. My text is solid, i am super confident, i have muscles out the ass, and i am employed lmao. I see what your saying about the compliance test. And perhaps i asked her out too soon because I thought she was just not going to reply again ...

Hopefully i run into her again and then i'll game her in person.

Any other thoughts would be appreciated

So next week I'll send her this text:


Urgent Message: On behalf of the state of Pennsylvania you are hereby notified that you have been scheduled to appear for your hearing in Allentown, Pennsylvania by no later than January 15th 2015. The state of Pennsylvania charges one Kristen (what ever your last name is) with reckless behavior & flakiness. If one Kristen does not appear in court by January 15th she will be banned from consuming Hershey's Cookies n Cream candy bars and Mountain Dew (Regular, Code Red & LiveWire) for 25 years to life. A life time ban on all bingo games will also be implemented immediately


I addresses her flakey behavior in a fun way. I can also take out flakey if thats too direct or scrap the message all together and send something a little bit shorter and funnier. Thoughts?

he hasn't replied to that however she seems interested in possibly meeting. I didn't get a lot of face time with her so how can i make her comfortable with meeting up for a first date?
hi rocket, look i think you cant make the difference if you only talk for 3 minutes, thing if you talk with someone for 3 minutes you will remember??, unless your approach was amazing, so i think if you feel confortable for make a phone call, make it and start with a hi im "rocket" and make a tease that will help to her remember who is talking, and she ask you your facebook its only for know you, your interestings, she is investigatin you , in the call tease her and if you feel that she is comfortable, ask "hey want to get a coffe or something" and have a date, very important make she fun, how? tease her.

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Flaking is normal, common and can never be eradicated completely. I'd say that getting this far, you've already done decent.

2 questions, what could you have done to reduce the chances of flaking further. And what to do next ?

How to reduce flaking
1) run a better set. Bottom line. Flaking is both a commentary on the kind of girl she is (cautious, super hot and gets approached a lot etc ...) but is also a commentary on how much of a connection you built with her in set. Run a better set, spend more time with her in set and chances are that she will be more inclined not to flake.

2) call back humour. Are u bringing things you talked about in set up with her via txt ? If not why not
?

3) did you put your number in her phone with your name ? If she gets
A text and its nameless it just further serves to remind her U are in fact a stranger.

What to do next
Like some posters have said, just lay off and try again later. Your hands are tied here because texting again without getting a reply will scream desperation. Waiting will make her completely forget you. My advise is to move on. Run a better set next time.

Goodluck!

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My approaches are usually very solid. I didn't get to spend a lot of time connecting with her due to the time constraints of being on the job. I can somewhat understand her caution in meeting me however it pains me to see a girl give up the opportunity to go out with me. I am rather amazing.

I used call back humor a few times during our texting interaction. She hasn't added me on facebook. Honestly the only thing i was missing was "hey what do you do for fun" when i talked to her. I would have told a story and shared what I like to do. There is a slim chance i'll see her again in person so i will game her if i see her again.

I will however text her this Sunday.

Me: Hey can you keep a secret?
Her: Yes, What???
Me: So i met this really cute girl at a gas station the other week. She seems down to earth and intelligent. I want to flirt with her and take her out however she is really flakey. Any advice?

I did not text that yet but i think its a good setup for our next text interaction. However I am at a loss as to what i should say after that. I want to get her on the phone however there is always the chance she doesn't pick up so it might be wise to build some comfort through text then say i will call her in 5 min in a text then call and cross my fingers she picks up. Thoughts?

So i texted her on Tuesday asking to hangout right and she didn't respond.

Saturday morning I wake up and i have a new snapchat from a user i dont recognize. It's a girl waking up taking a selfie of her self. I didn't really know who it was so i didn't pay it any mind.

3am Sunday I get a text from the girl this thread is out saying that she works everyday this week however she has off this Monday. At 11am I respond saying monday works for me, and that we should meet up and get into an adventure. I have yet to hear a reply but this might actually work if she doesn't flake last minute.

Gahhhh blehhh. No dawg. Way too big a text. You're putting a huge load on her with that post. I read somewhere that you shouldn't 'ask' for a date, but rather kinda set it up than invite her like instead you could be like "Friday night, shits about to go down. It involves ice skating and waffles...you in?".

I agree with that. Always spot those opportunities

I agree i should have asked her out that first time however I had no idea that she wasn't going to respond to my last text.

So monday came around and she never hit me up. I am going to text her later today and throw a hail marry with this:

Me: I met this really cute girl at a two weeks ago. I think her name is Kristen. She is intelligent and down to Earth. I really want to see her, however she is sooo flakey. Any suggestions on how to make a date happen?

Or would a phone call be better?