Hello everyone, need some advice here. I have a friend who has been showing me around the area and helping me meet everyone since everyone knows him. We go to parties on the weekends and I seem to have trouble opening to groups and approaching. Its easy when its just casual hanging out but I'm not that great with party game/quick game. For example, I was smoking with a few friends and drinking talking to some people I had just met and that went fine. However, when my friend said ''dude start talking to girls'' I was like ok ok because my game is not that bad at the mall or other places but when it came time to approach I froze up and ended up not doing anything. I feel the main reason I froze up is
1. I am new around here so if I made myself look stupid I would F my social life
2. I didnt really know what to say after I opened up the group. Only good opener I thought of was "Hey, were you talking about me?'' Her: ''No'' Me: ''well why not?!'' smile after and introduce myself but then what?)
3. People form little clusters of people at parties obviously and I feel like I would be intruding or encounter some woman with a bitch shield. So, all in all I guess I didn't do it out of fear of rejection and not being comfortable with my opener. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Openers(For groups of 2-4 people) and what to say after, how to get over my fears, etc.

Opinion openers are great for groups. Direct is a bit hard because the friend potentially drags her away. More so in the night than day.

_________________
Musician, Gym Junkie, Entrepreneur, Dating Expert.

Navigating Social Relationships
http://datingcoachsingapore.com

We have an extensive body of knowledge.

We have the BEST MINDS you will ever find on social-interaction and relationships.

Okay, can anyone recommend some good group openers for parties? I was at one on friday and I opened up a group of 3 girls with the '' who do you think lies more'' opinion opener and I got them talking for a minute or 2 but the conversation died off and one of the girls said '' I don't want to think about someones break up'' and turned away. She said that because one of the 3 asked why and I said ''a friend and I were discussing it because he recently broke up with his gf blah blah blah''. So anyway, what are some good openers for groups and what should I do when the convo starts to die?

Another situation I was in, here were 3 girls sitting at the counter watching my friends play beer pong, and one made eye contact with me 2 times and she kept looking at me. I wanted to approach the group but I didn't really know what to say. This happens a lot where there are groups and I am not sure how to open them. Again, what are some good openers for groups at night time parties?

Not sure if it fits your personality but if you behave in a manner that you are the 'life of the party' you can never go wrong.

One of my favourite things to do when the conversation starts to die down is to ask a GENERAL, open question.

It can be very vague, for example, "So what else do you do besides going to parties and talking to
handsome guys...?"

or "So what else is up?"

In other words, when you notice a topic has became dull and washed off, CHANGE the topic. Ask another
question and restart the conversation.

Sometimes if I stop a girl on the street, I would say, "Hey, I just saw you walking and I wanted to
say you are absolutely stunning...if you were blonde, you'd be totally my type."

Then WAIT for 2 sec, let the sentence sink in, allow a little bit of awkardness and then CHANGE the
topic and say, "So where are you headed today?"

Get it?

Don't get stale in a conversation. When it grows boring, ask another general question.

O and if you feel anxious about just starting a conversation, then I invite you
and anyone reading this to be a part of a small selected test group to try my new Approach Anxiety Cure
which elimintes your AA in under 60min.

The details in my signature.

So use those general questions when in a conversation, and good luck!

_________________
Test out my new Approach Anxiety technique, that eliminates your AA
in UNDER an hour (2022 updated)

You can try it here Here: New AA Cure

look, if you are in a party and you see a girl in a group, just go with a smile and play, tease on what are they doing, for example if is a party and they doesnt dance, just say "you look like the best dancers in the party, and i decide to know you" and smile, just open with a tease of the place and what they are doing, then what to say its easy, just talk with all, not with your objetive, talk with everyone, talk about the party, make a tease of one of them and make the others laugth but not being a clown, and then dance with your objetive or invite her a beer, and make your game, just practice and see whats its good.

cocinero

_________________
be the rule exception... get the girl