| You need to focus on naturalising your interactions. Being natural and normal is the number 1 priority when opening. In fact, is is very important throughout the interaction from start to end.
Also, you need to get away from thinking of an opener as a whole phase. The opener is not important. You need to have the mindset that you are going there to have a conversation, an interaction. View it as a whole, and approach it in as natural a way as possible.
Of course the opener is no indispensable. In fact every time you initiate an interaction, the first few lines you say, that is your opener regardless of what you say. And of course, changing the words that come out of your mouth can be a positive or a negative. Lets look at extremes. If you go up to someone and say, "you're extremely ugly". Well no matter how natural you say it, no matter how good looking you are, or how good you're body language is, chances are you'll get rejected, and probably scolded.
So the reverse is also true, some things you say can make the interaction go smoother. Although I must say, in my experience, the negative extreme end is way more likely to get you rejected, than a very good opener is likely you to get into an interaction. At the top end of openers, I think it only ends maybe a 10% more chance that she will allow you to continue in the interaction.
At the end of the day, if you avoid some very negative openers, the rest is depending on how you say it.
I must add, that the only part of opening that really matters, is whether it is appropriate for the situation. In a supermarket for example "i love pasta", said to a girl beside you who is looking at pasta too. Thats such a great opener. Its not even an "opener". Thats just shit normal people say in a normal situation. Savyy ? Good. Stop focusing on the opener. Anyone with half a brain can think of things to say.
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