hi fellow PUAs, so here is my scenario:

I recently added this girl on FB. She is the friend of my officemate. So like what most of us will do, i asked my officemate to introduce me to her and he said yes... but it did not happen.

So again like most of us will do, I will do this without my officemate's introduction.

Any tips on how will i game with this girl? both in real world and in FB?

i have no idea how to open her, iam still used to game my targets only when iam introduced

I think it is too awkward if i barge in with a line like, "hi, iam ___'s officemate, you are his firend right?" blah blah blah.

I dont know what to do on this lol. Advices please.

FYI,

1.we were all newcomers in the office
2. the girl and i are in different departments but still in one building.
3. we have common freinds(9 in FB)
4.iam not that close to my officemate (my target's friend)
5.the girl knows nothing about me at all. (well, i think she saw me already once.. but i will assume she did not recognize me on facebook)
6. i know that i should game her in person (i always do this) but i only seldom see her. That is why i plan to start it in facebook, then N close and so on.

Thanks!!

Sup,

Office stuff is a bit iffy. If works out then it is a relationship and everybody at the office will now. If it doesn't work out then it is a break up and everybody will STILL know. My recommendation is to not pursue it. You don't shit where you get your paycheck is all im saying.

BUT if you still wanna do it here is how:

FIRST, FUK FACEBOOK. it is impersonal and is an excuse for girls not to get close to you.

You should do what they typically do in an office. Meet her by water cooler or lunch room, basically start casual convo. "Aren't you that girl that i added on facebook recently?"

This is where most of the game will occur for now. Get her name. Get her boyfriend/married/gay situation out of the way by asking questions. You see in an office you cant be direct so find an excuse to get her number. "Oh you like circus too? Well im in this meetup group and we go every week. pass me your number and ill text you the next meetup we are going to have."

From there it is a combination of office game and text game to ultimately get her out of the office setting to chill with you on a weekend or something.

Once the day 2 is arranged it is up to you to escalate, calibrate. the whole nine yards

Cheers,
Ted H.

Yup, this is good. Thanks man.

Whatever you do don't message her on Facebook. You shouldn't have added her but it's too late now. Don't talk to her on fb. Other than that Ted H's advice is solid.

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i was wondering, what is the bad effect of chatting her?

Honestly, i almost chat her lately but i couldnt, my instincts are telling me not to chat her in fb, but only after meeting her in person lol.

Can you explain why?

The question is, Why do you want to chat with her ?

You don't know her. You've never spoken to her. Does she even know you ?

It's because you've seen her around and your interested in her. That's ok that we know that, But we don't want HER to know that. And if you randomly add her on Facebook and then strike up an online conversation, she's going to assume, correctly so, that you're interested in her.

Your interest is a powerful tool. It's one of the "tricks" you have up your sleeve. Don't concede your interest so easy and fast.

There are situations when online chat might be the only option left, if you will never see her in person. And you can overcome the initial de-valuing of yourself with some smart moves. You may even be able to avoid de-valuing yourself altogether (ie.some reason that disguises your true intention like Sth work related).

In general you want to "save" your value as much as possible.

As long as I know I have ANY other option available, I will never add a girl on Facebook without having a reason to do so. Even if I meet a girl i like I may not always add her.

The key is to preserve your value, and the first chance you get to interact with her, suprise her with your confidence. Flirt w her and be funny/ stimulative/ cool. And escalate. Slowly build up over a few interactions (bumping into her at water cooler etc ...) the quicker the better. Get her number, get her to go out,
Get her in your life. And close.

Thank me later ! Haha

Gd luck man.

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In the office you have to play it cool. It's really hard to open a set when she's on the phone with a customer and her manager and all her coworkers are watching you and listening to you. I'll give you an example of how I'd approach this one.

I would wait to do it in the breakroom. I've got some decent semi-observational/canned material for breakroom conversations. They walk in, I don't really approach them, but I make a kind of general declaration to anyone who is listening (which is her) "Why is it that every microwave in the world is made differently? None of them have the same buttons or knobs or are even the same size? There should be ONE button: HEAT." This is obviously supposed to be a witty observation which should garner a response of some kind from her. If she has any personality whatsoever she'll laugh and/or respond.

Then ask "And why is it that the thing will turn your plate into a molten disk that will burn your flesh off when you touch it, yet the food inside is still ice cold in the middle?" This is what comedians do when they point out the funny/ironic aspects of things EVERYONE is familiar with. Ok, so now she is laughing and warmed up. Then you're like "I'm sorry to rant, my name is Ninja, what's yours?" You did your icebreaker, you are the funny office guy, and now you know her name and you two are officially acquainted.

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