Hey, I started college in California this year. Wondering if you have picked up girls in the college dining hall or cafeteria. There are usually 100s of students there and the girl is mostly sitting in a mixed group of 3-5 students. Any suggestions/anecdotes for an indirect approach and how to carry conversation forward? I have also noticed that a group is usually more hostile than an individual because they have the upper hand (I am the intruder), which makes it more difficult.

Hard to approach a group.
Like people give time and time again, when you interact reaching for the game, you flow with the signs you read and the body language and interpretation.

Generally, that means if they're in a group, you're in a group. You don't approach 5 girls and hit on one all by yourself. That's social suicide usually.

Get a group of friends, sit all together. Or make friends with a few of them personally.

If you sat there with a bunch of random people, and started chatting, maybe you'd get some reactions sure and maybe it might turn out fine. It's just not my recommendation.

Maybe I'll look some more into that group or clique mentality and get back to you.

Hard to approach a group.
Like people give time and time again, when you interact reaching for the game, you flow with the signs you read and the body language and interpretation.

Generally, that means if they're in a group, you're in a group. You don't approach 5 girls and hit on one all by yourself. That's social suicide usually.

Get a group of friends, sit all together. Or make friends with a few of them personally.

If you sat there with a bunch of random people, and started chatting, maybe you'd get some reactions sure and maybe it might turn out fine. It's just not my recommendation.

Maybe I'll look some more into that group or clique mentality and get back to you.

Ok I think I got it.

There are some guidelines here: http://attractioninstitute.com/how-to-f ... lirtation/

As long as you're fulfilling what's there, you can have a happy and carefree time going out and you know you aren't making yourself or anyone feel nervous.

I got a great interaction on the lunch with a HB8.
I live in country where people is not social. So, is very uncommon to talk to strangers.

So, I got my food..them looking for a place to seat..there were 5 tables (circular ones like for 6 people) each one with one girl..other with a muslim couple...so, I choose the best looking girl. I sit down. I realized the table has no 100 % on level.. then I made a comment to the girl..about the table...then I continue eating... after a while...I said "hey, you eat too much" ...girl didn't understand..I said twice..still..anything..so, me a bit with arrogant face took my phone and wrote what I was saying..

after she understood...I said..well I dont mean you look fat...but you put too much food on the table.and look how the table is.. girl "no I didnt take too much". Yes you did, I came late to table..you have eaten already more than have ..so thats because now i see a decent amount on your plate... bla bla.. everything in a playful way..then interaction continue very well.. closed number and girl very very happy. Before leave the girl...told have a boyfriend who lives with her. Still she wanna meet me again... told me Im very funny... Which Im not...but Im playful yes...


just my story. ( From my phone)

An indirect approach would be the best option in these scenarios. You can go there an use a Opener. Ask an opinion about anything.
If there is only a group of girls, use openers that may be attractive to females. Those are usually about looks and relationships.
When in the group are boys, things change a little. You cannot bring to the table an opener that might be too feminine. This opener is too popular but feel free to use it until you create one of your own. I'll make it short so you can put it in your own words later. Ask "If a girl has a boyfriend. She is in a party and kisses a girl just for fun, would that be cheating?" The guys would say no. Then ask the same question but instead of kissing a girl, tell them that she kisses a guy for fun, would that be cheating? That would create a discussion about double standards.
After the Opener, if you see that the group if friendly and like you, introduce yourself. Tells statements about that they look from bla bla country or state, that they look like best friends and ask how they met each other. Say whatever to transition and then flow a normal conversation. If they do not feel friendly after the opener, give a excuse why you ask their opinions. Ex: "This happened to a friend of a friend, and I believe is cheating...Thank for the opinions...My name is NM btw...". Then leave and think that you are being sociable and now you know those people. You might see them around the campus or a party and then, because you know them, you can start a conversation and know them more easily.

Tips
1) I know that it can suck to use some kind of script to open, but remember that they don't know you. They would not react the same as if they were alone. If you see a girl, you can tell her that she looks cute and introduce yourself. But in a group, if you tell that to one of them, your target might feel weird and her friends may wanted you to kick you out. What the opener does is that it allows you to interact with the whole group and win all of them.
2) Interact with everybody. Make eye contact with all of them. Not only to one.
3) Tell them that you would only be there for a moment. If you stay more, joke with them about how late you are or that they have kidnapped you and you miss your meeting.
4) Have a friend who can help you. Preferably a friend with good social skills that can aid you. He can get in after the opener and you introduce him to the group. This can be a great help if you want to focus in one girl.

I went a little far but I hope this helps you. The point is to meet people and be sociable.