As a PUA in training I am starting to get used to being rejected. My approach anxiety is going down and I can feel that I'm building a thicker skin against it.

It's become obvious to me that there are a lot of "zombie slaves" out there and although I can still get a little embarassed by their rejections I know deep down that I'm the one doing the right thing and actually being HUMAN by trying to make connections with women.

What do I mean by "zombie slaves?" I mean women who are so insecure and/or detached from their humanity that they cannot appreciate a friendly approach (and I do mean friendly because I tend to make my approaches very natural and honest. I rarely use the openers for which the PUA community is so well known for). I'm not asking that these women jump in bed with me but whatever happened to courtesy and appreciation?

So in this thread I am interested in hearing the most ridiculous rejections you guys have gotten, where you just walked away feeling happy that a woman revealed her ugly side before you spent any time or money on her.

To kick off the ridiculousness here are a couple of my recent rejections. By the way I'm also interested to hear if you have experienced the same as me because I live in Denmark where people are known to be very cold to strangers, often only meeting new people when drunk.

1. I approached a couple of women at the park and tried something new for fun. It was something I found from the channel "Simple Pickup" on YouTube, but I can't find the link to this particular video right now. It involves going up to one or more women speaking a foreign language and pretending that you don't speak anything else. In my case the women acted very offended and kept asking me why I was talking to them and telling me not to talk to them because they don't know me. Right because we are only allowed to talk to people we know... by the way they were both 5s at best; I was just looking to practice and keep my momentum going that day.

2. Earlier today I approached a 7 at best. She was sitting down and doing something on her phone. I sat near her and asked her how she was doing and she gave me a one-word answer. I proceeded to ask if she was enjoying the sun. "Yes" and then silence. I then asked if she doesn't talk to strangers? "No" was the answer. All throughout the interaction she barely glanced up from her phone. So I left her and walked away pondering how a person can be so disconnected from their humanity that playing on their phone (or even messaging someone) could take precedence over a real interaction.

3. This is a very funny one. About a week ago I saw a girl at the grocery store who I mistook for someone I know, but not very well. I went up to her and then I noticed that maybe it wasn't her after all, so I asked "Angla? (her name). Is your name Angla?" But she didn't respond or even look at me! Honestly she looked so unphased by the whole thing that I started to wondering if she was deaf. I asked her if she could hear me. But then I figured that couldn't be the case since I was standing so close to her; there had to be a reaction even if she couldn't hear me at all. So I just told her she was weird and left. Then I felt bad for calling her weird because honestly I don't think anyone is ever justified in putting someone else in a box.

The optimist in me wants to think that these women are just not used to getting approached (would make sense since this is Denmark and they were not so attractive) and thus don't know how they should act to show that they are not interested. So the easiest thing is to just kind of ignore me or reinforce each others' behaviors in order to be accepted by their friends (as in the first example).

So tell me about your ridiculous rejections and remember: it's ok, you're doing the right thing, don't let them drag you down with their negativity!

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Best (worst?) I've ever had was at a frat/sorority mixer. I'm not part of a frat, but I have a lot of friends in a few so I get invited to events sometimes as an "unofficial" brother. Anyway, walked up to a semi drunk sorority girl, and before I even said anything she goes: "Oh no! I don't know you, I can't talk to you!" in a really bitchy way with her finger in the air (think the black girl Z stroke). My brain short circuited for a second because I was in shock someone could say something so dumb. When I regained my composure, I just laughed to myself and walked away.

Dude, the reason they responded in the way they did is because being approached by a guy you don't know with some bizarre chat up line can be really scary! No offence to you or the rest of you guys following these weird rules, but think about it from our point of view. We're raised to avoid strangers, expect assault if we're out on our own late at night etc. I carry my car keys between my fingers if I have to walk home late at night. I'm sure you're a nice guy, but going up to women, especially if they're alone is going to freak them out. If you want to learn something about women and actually know what's going on in our heads when it comes to men, you will find a wealth of information if you search #yesallwomen on twitter.

We're not crazy feminists, we like guys, I like guys. We don't think you're all rapists, we just get a bit freaked out by men we don't know who approach is in weird ways, especially when we're on our own. We're not another species, you can categorise us by how 'hot' we are if you want. We do the same thing, but since attraction is subjective and often relates to how well you connect with someone the hotness scale kinda becomes irrelevant.

We like the same things you do, some of us. We have the same fears, insecurities and experiences that you do. Perceived hotness isn't a guarantee that we get who we want, I have a friend who's a model and she's the same as you! She fancied a guy and wasn't sure if he liked her back, she was insecure and freaking out about it. She's not a robot, she's a human being.

There is no sure way to get someone to like you. The best advice I can give is to be you, follow your passions and be nice to people. If you get out there in life you'll meet people and inevitably meet a woman you connect with. It all comes down to a connection. You can't force that and there are no rules that can be followed to make it happen. Just live.

I was using a chessy line, girl nodded her head and "okaaaaaaaaayyy then"
I stared at her till she left lol

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If I approach daytime I usually don't approach girls that are messing with their phones. I don't think I'd stop texting someone important if a stranger approached me either.

Also, when I open during the day I cut the crap and just tell the girl I find her gorgeous and I want to get to know her better. This hardly ever creeps them out because I don't have hidden agendas. What usually happens is we chat a bit and then depending on logistical possibilities I take them to instant dates or exchange numbers. If they don't like me then they usually reject me politely. It's very rare that they get offended, and I don't particularly care about that either.

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The above posts make sense

however, what Pick-Up does is set up a system for socially inept guys to be able to develop social skills that just so happen to derive from wanting to approach women.

Simple question? would you rather have a weak man with poor body language, poor clothing try hard to force awkward small talk? Or a strong man with great body language start off a comfortable conversation about if you think spells are real?

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One of the worst rejections I had was back when I was in college and didn't know anything about game or pick up.
There had been a very cute redhead in one of my life drawing classes and had always seemed pretty friendly towards me. One day I ran into her in the student computer lab and we were having a pleasant conversation. I then asked her if she would like to go with me a local night club that Friday to see some friends of mine that were DJing. She told me sure. But thinking about on it now, she didn't really seem all that comfortable going to a night club.
So the night of the event, I get all dressed up. Iron shirt, slacks, cologne, etc. i walk to her dorm room and knock on the door. She opens up wearing only her pajamas, and tells me that she doesn't want to go. Then proceeded to shut the door in the face. I got upset, went back to my room, and watched Star Trek: Deep Space Nine for 2 hrs. It was the episode where the Klingon Forces attack the station. "Way of the Warrior" I believe it was.
I did end up going out later, but wasn't in the mood for too much fun after that.

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go to krauser daygame. He's helped me a lot and now this stuff never happens anymore. Krauser recommends opening with a tease along with a compliment and then you assumption stack (you make assumptions about what she does, likes dislikes, where she's from etc.) Buy his book too; its really good.

So I was at this club sitting down in a boot with my friend who was a lightweight when these girls looked over and come to us. they ask if my friend was okay I said he sleeping so one asked me for my name which I replied then asking for hers then kissed her on the cheek, she then asked me how old I was which I lied about but she didnt believe me when i started to pull my license out. she then said "oh im sorry im as older as your sister"

I will keep in mind what you've written, but I refuse to just "wait until it happens inevitably." I have nothing to lose and everything to gain by going up to random women. Sure, it might scare some of them, but it's not like I'm doing it in a dark alley where there is no one else around. The kind of woman I want is open-minded, friendly and confident enough to at least appreciate my approach. If she is courageous or stupid enough, she may give me her number or agree to an insta-date. I won't sit here and worry about whether I'm scaring strangers. I know that I have good intentions; if she is doubtful it's understandable but not my fault.

Anyway, I just saw a really funny video illustrating this whole situation. Check it out: http://www.upworthy.com/this-comedian-j ... c-2?c=ufb2

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