| My philosophy is that by approaching, you put yourself in a weak position. It becomes obvious that you want something from them - you want to pick them up, or in a more innocent perspective you at least want to become friends, as if you don't have any friends and need to start from scratch. That's why such direct approaches are bad IMO. It requires some experience and finesse to be able to approach strangers.
How to approach, some options:
1. If possible, let a friend introduce you.
2. Throw a comment out as the girl/girls pass by (or stand nearby), but don't walk up to them. Stay where you are and talk louder if necessary. Ignore them if they walk away.
3. Start talking to people around you and them. Mingle around without any apparent target in mind, and slowly progress towards your target.
4. With experience, you should be able to approach directly without any risk of rejection. The trick is to have something relevant to tell, without expecting anything in return. Be ready to walk away at any time, as if you couldn't care less, since you didn't really want anything anyway.
Build rapport
When you say that you "tell that we are all strangers when we are born" it becomes obvious that you want something from them and that you are trying to hide it. This definitely doesn't build rapport. Instead, say something that makes them comfortable, preferably something that is true:
1. First confirm their feelings by saying something like: "I know this is unusual, but..."
2. Then give them a reason. Any bullshit reason works: "I just feel so happy today". Or perhaps something more direct, relevant and honest: "I thought you guys looked interesting".
3. Give them a chance to escape. "I can leave if you want to be alone".
This will most likely make them feel comfortable around you, and accept your presence. There are occasions where people want to be left alone no matter how nice you are though, in which case you should respect that and leave.
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