Was eating a late breakfast this morning at a local diner, working on my laptop, and two gorgeous girls, both solid 9s and in young 20s (blonde & brunette), sit down a couple of booths behind me. It was apparent that they had just came from the gym (tank top, short shorts, sneakers). After I pay, I walk up to their table and go in for direct approach:

Me: "Just wanted to say that whatever you two are doing, keep doing it."

Them (suspiciously smiling): "Thanks"

Me to the blonde: "I know you're eating and I need to get to work, just had ask, are you single?"

Blonde: "Have a boyfriend"

Me to the brunette: "And you..?"

Brunette (laughs): "Boyfriend.. and we're trying to eat lunch"

Glad I got my at least one rejection a day out of the way early. My question to the community is... should we approach girls mid-meal?

On the one hand, why not? I'm likely never going to see them again so what do I have to lose?
On the other hand, maybe there's some sort of approach/eating etiquette I'm violating. I mean, I wouldn't approach a girl while she's taking a shit obviously...

Thoughts?

Ohh there are a bunch of good openers for girls who are eating....

You've got a pretty big rejection, i bet at last one girl didn't had a bf....

But good luck next time !

The "I have a boyfriend" is the number one autopilot response out there and there are hundreds of posts and philosophical musings on here on how to deal with it. You asked them if they had boyfriends??? It's a pain enough dealing with the uninvited boyfriend response never mind asking the girls for it. Never ask if they are single or anything which presupposes they have a boyfriend. The best time to have approached these girls would have been when they had finished eating and in a good mood.

Of course there's etiquette against interrupting a meal, but are you going to let etiquette dictate your chances of sleeping with beautiful women?

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One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.

Don't ever... ever, ever, ever ask a girl if she has a boyfriend. Let her come up with that objection on her own... Don't give her an excuse to throw you out. And even if she does have a boyfriend... does it matter?

Yes, you should approach women who are eating if you absolutely have to meet them and you're actually in a rush. However, everything is in the approach. I like your opener, but your transition to "are you single?" was way to quick and abrupt for your opener. You didn't create enough attraction or comfort at that point. I understand that you were probably in a rush and wanted to get your point across quickly. But perhaps, next time, you might want to build some social comfort first. For instance, after the opener, you can say something like "I can see why you ladies come here to eat breakfast/lunch...you're into this whole health craze thing" (use facial expressions and hand gestures while communicating). BTW, it doesn't have to be a healthy place, in fact if it's a place like McDonald's it'll make your comment all the more funnier. If your delivery is correct, they might giggle a little, which will create an opening for the "who's the good/naughty" game you can play between them.

Again, this is just a suggestion to improve your next approach to eating sets. Not saying that it'll absolutely work, but give it a try and work with it.

As a general rule, you have few opportunities to approach women when they are out dining.

After the hostess has sat the group down, you have a few minutes before the server arrives. After the set makes their orders there is a huge lull in preoccupation. This is the ideal time to approach, but also you can approach after the set has eaten and they are waiting for the bill. When they are eating or are in the middle of paying the bill, they are more or less off limits. This is common sense, but as is normally the case...common sense is not common.

There's nothing wrong with using a direct approach, but make it go somewhere. Instead of hitting on them hard, soften it up a little. My favorite direct approach is this: "Wow, aren't you looking nice today? Are you? Nice?" This sends the message and shifts the conversation immediately into a short yes ladder. It is expected as a matter of good manners to say "Yes, I'm a nice person" From there, fluff talk into a number close. I'll leave you to figure that much out as I would be writing a short novel for you if I spoonfed you the info.

If she says she has a boyfriend, wave your hand like a Jedi in front of her and say, "You do not have a boyfriend." Three things are taking place here: 1. You never asked, so it was her bitch shield that threw the objection out there. 2. When she hears your retort she finds the answer funny and unique. 3. Based on what you said, she understands that you are the type of guy that does not care if she is dating already. You are indicating to her that you go by the old-fashioned dating model rather than the 21st Century STD-paranoid auto-couple model.

I guess you did a good job crashing and burning in this set. Oh well, live & learn.

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That's my $0.02

-Bluesy

Kudos for trying, though. I would encourage you to keep doing this -(approach women who are eating) taking the above advice in mind and giving us your outcomes.

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Preston's Game Log - Please critique

The opener you used was really good!

Shame about what happened next but keep it up!

Great tips from everyone. I realized after the fact (always after the fact) that I had an opp to build some attraction but took it too fast. I could have said... "where do you work out?" .. "need any pancake syrup for that healthy salad?".. blah blah..

I like the jedi move, definitely going to use that.

Usually when someone offers to me that they have a boyfriend I say something quick like "oh yeah, how long have you had that problem?"

Anywho... Neeeeeeeeext.