we went to the same school, she's a year younger than i am. I didn't really know her very well in school, but a little bit, and we have a lot of mutual friends. She's grown up decently, and we've slightly flirted back and forth for a long time now online, but i've been in a relationship for a couple of years until recently, and haven't pushed the issue of talking to this new chick until now.

I've kinda been out of my relationship now for a couple of weeks, and I knew this girl was available. Tonight i post a music video to my FB page, and she comments how she loves the band. Turns out, the band is in our town for a concert next week, along with another band she likes, so i simply comment with "xxxx in concert w/xxxx at XVenue on 11/30" -- she says "No way!!!" -- I respond with "yep. let's go."

she responded with a "Heck yeah! I'd love to go!"

so I took the conversation to a private message, told her i was serious about going, said it would be nice to finally go out with her. She responded with "Ok that sounds like a plan!!"

i followed that up with "Sweet. I'm looking forward to it."

.....so my question to the forum is... how should I communicate in between now and the day of the concert? Should I initiate communication at all, if so, when? Maybe in a couple of days just say "Hey I got those concert tickets. What time should I pick you up Friday?"

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also, is a concert "too much" for a first date/hangout?

it's a week away...

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I think you did as well as you could have...you assumed the deal, and she jumped at it.

I did a "first date" with a girl to a concert a couple of months ago, as I was recently singled. I didn't wantto invest too much so I ended up getting free tickets from a buddy. You will most likely have to buy them, or play into the "so hey how do you want to get the tix?"...or something like that, basically opening up the idea of her paying her own way, or better yet, paying for both tickets.

Me and my girl also planned our concert "date" for about a week in advance. I followed up a day or two later with "this is going to be an awesome concert"...and chit chat followed. Anoter day I sent her some lyrics to one of the songs in txt msg...and she jumped right into it.

Day of concert I picked her up, broke into kino by holding her hand as we crossed the street (I always do that)...works great for me (I think...lol). We sat in the lawn and relaxed, talked, flirted a little...walked around. I bought myself a concert shirt. Concert was good. Music was good. Mood was good. Drive home was good. I friendzoned her on the way home and didnt try to kiss close. Hugged her and told her we should do it again. For me, it was a sucess. Built some basis with her, and we are on for another upcoming concert. She has become my "concert girl".

Hope my rambling helps.

thanks for the reply.

out of curiosity, why did you friendzone her?

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I didn't want to seem needy. On the way home I was already thinking of the ackward "kiss proposal at the door" and I wanted to avoid it if I could, to be a little different from the avg guy she might go out with. Or to be different from what we see in movies.
And it relaxes me more so I can be a little more natural and let my humor come out. I've read it other places, and I can't credit it with any lays, but I've laid girls I've friendzoned before. But there are a hundred other variables with my sucesses. Who knows. I like doing it because it allows me to beat her to the punch. Maybe it will allow her to think "did he just friendzone me? I wonder why?".
I still chat with with my "concert girl" (txt msgs) here and there, but she is not on the top of my list. The worst that can come out of her and my relationship is I network some of her friends thru her. I figure as long as I am around more girls, and causally going out with more girls, my confidence will go up and I will become more at-ease being around hotter and hotter girls. Again, I'm just rambling on.