Hey Gents,

So the scenario is as follows: I was at a bar/club last night and went to get a drink. The bartender was this cute Irish girl, and we started chatting. (FYI, i asked her if she was Irish, and then started saying some random things to her in gaelic). Too be honost - I actually wasnt looking to pick up.

After a bit of convo, she said started giving me free drinks "so long as I dont tell her boss". i asked her if she was going to join me, which she did.

Anyway, come time for me to leave, I go to the bar to say goodbye, and she grabs my hand, and climbs onto the bar to give me a kiss on the cheek. I ask her how old she is and she says 20, (im 30) to which I shake my head and say something like just too young... tsk tsk, and then walk out.

Now this has been playing on my mind and Id love to chat to the girl again. I have found her on facebook by looking at who is friends with the club we were at, and there she was.

QUESTION: how do I know approach on facebook without it seeming like I stalked the girl?

The_Unc

Why don't you just return to the bar she works at? I think this would come off much more natural than a spontaneous message on FB.

stay off the online game til you two build something together... The biggest mistake is to cut to the comfort game too early... Amplify attractions with her... Kino and the presence makes it more interesting... Thats why when I meet ppl, I prefer a solid handshake and the strong eye contact when I`m talking. Of course with a girl, you want to kino her naturally

I would just forget about her or meet her in person. OR, if you want to bomb, just contact her on facebook. Then you will get it out of your system.