is it an IOI if a girl approaches you and starts a conversation with you?

yes

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alright then it happen to me last week several times at a party and I'm very new to the game so I had no clue what was going on. I know a little bit more cuz i have been studying this week about this stuff and i still have alot to learn. could you list off some other IOI's im a sponge looking for knowledge on this stuff

She grabs your crotch, thats a sign she is into you! :p

Seriously though...The list is as diverse as girls themselves.

Lots of eye contact
Smiling when you talk
Asking a lot of questions about you
Staying near you for longer than 1-2 minutes
Touching you
Approval seeking

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lol man if anyone else has any more even if they are obvious send them this way

Wrote an entire thread on body language. body-language-the-key-to-natural-game-vt71495.html

It's got a lot of info in it, I also wrote a couple of blogs one on submissive signals http://showyourmind.wordpress.com/2012/ ... turn-show/ and one on preening http://showyourmind.wordpress.com/2012/ ... ic-preens/ , then I used those blogs to help create an approach cues http://showyourmind.wordpress.com/2012/ ... ttraction/ blog. I also wrote an overtures blog http://showyourmind.wordpress.com/2012/ ... overtures/ which talks about a woman who gives you a chance to talk to her.

The problem for someone like me is IOIs are so situational. I can't just say if she is preening she is attracted, because that doesn't mean she is attracted to you. I can't just say oh she isn't attracted she did this. Everything requires context, consistency, congruency, timing, base lining, idiosyncratic behaviors, clusters, for you to decipher a good message.

Some girls just constantly stroke their hair, some girls always show submissive signals, we all have different behaviors and you need to make a decision based on the situation.

General signs of attraction include:

Invading your intimate space(the amount she needs may be less than what you need)
Touch we tend to touch what we are attracted to
We as humans tend to put our eyes on what we are most interested or attracted to
We as humans tend to preen when we are attracted
We tend to be more anxious, nervous or insecure(dropping keys or phone)
Looking down after eye contact(submissive signal)

I mean seriously IOIs to me are seriously a very vague question, IOIs can lie. It's best to learn to read body language correctly and not by for example saying she touched me she is attracted, some women or cultures are just touchy.

I suggest buying a book on body language. Watching some youtube videos.

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Why would a girl talk to you other than interest? Correct, there is no reason. When a girl starts a conversation and you like her work your way towards with your goal is.

Some girls just constantly stroke their hair, some girls always show submissive signals, we all have different behaviors and you need to make a decision based on the situation.

I mean seriously IOIs to me are seriously a very vague question, IOIs can lie. It's best to learn to read body language correctly and not by for example saying she touched me she is attracted, some women or cultures are just touchy.



Very good reply...this is where I was intending to take it above but alcohol is not the best editor!

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FALSE! A woman can talk to a man she isn't interested in, ugly people never have conversations or what? She could be talking to you just because you are around.

I am the kind of guy that just naturally has conversations with a shit load of people. It's no biggie to me, but there are also women out there who are just sociable. What you think to girls go in the rest room together are interested in each other when they come out chatting?

When a woman opens you it is more likely she is attracted but that doesn't mean she is absolutely attracted. For all you know she heard that you did something and she just wants to get a favor(though that is a form of interest).

Ugh, please please go learn to read body language if you are going to give advice, sorry to be dick but body language isn't just she does one thing she is attracted for sures, that is just not true.

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Usually within first minute (more often within first seconds) of interaction after she approached you can tell if she approached because she likes you or if she approached because she just talk to random people. Most of the time its the first one
My advice for a newbie would be assume she is interested and proceed untill she gives you indication that she is actually not interested.