Okay, I find it annoyingly hard to understand why the girl was constantly calling and texting her friends while we were together.

Here's the situation. I have known her for about a week and we have built up so much rappot, both physical and emotional so i asked her out for a quick lunch. She didn't refuse. And we talked about her day, then I complimented on her hair and how stunning her eyes were and stuff like that. But throughout the whole time, that bitch were constantly texting her friends and calling without even saying sorry.

How should I interpret this?

Is she not fucking interested in me? I was ceratinly pleasing her, I saw that in her laugh. and i had enough IOIs to go for the kiss

Was she talking about urgent stuffs? no.

Was she not comfortable around me?

Then at the end, when we said goodbye to each other, I told her I was mad and disappointed in her for not taking our time together seriously. She didn't even say she was sorry. She just laughed. I was pissed off so much that I just walked away

Any advices? It really fucking pisses me off.
What should I ahve done to be dominant?

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I think she definitely was into you when you asked her out, but she got kinda bored. You also don't have to compliment her on everything, its a lot more fun for you and for her if you tease the shit out of her. The texting and calling were obvious signs that she was bored.

Don't try to win her over, or you'll end up in the friendzone, you might already be there actually. Just tease tease tease, bust her ballz. You shouldn't care if she likes you or not, she should care. She should try to win you over.

Also don't get mad dude that shows that she got under your skin, it's a major DLV

Hope this helps

do you for some reason feel the need to be polite to people for no reason?

do you say sorry to people when you are both walking in the same direction and cross paths, then when you get close you move out of the way and say ''sorry'' when you have nothing to be sorry for?

do you never risk saying anything rude to a girl on the off chance she won't like you?


speak your mind man, if you are super pissed off, control your self, keep your calm at all times and work on it, that doesn't mean you can't calmly let her know she is being rude

''hey listen to me, are you going to be on your phone all night or are you going to hang out with me?, that shit is rude''

your goal is not to be some girls little puppy dog bitch, you are there to have fun or get laid, if you are not enjoying your time with a girl, why the fuck would you go out with her or want to continue the date?

also you don't need a week of rapport to ask a girl out, for that matter you don't need a week of rapport to have sex, you need to screen girls more quickly, it should be evident to you relatively quickly that the girl likes you and is positive, if it is not, then why waste your time?, no rapport needs to be built, further then that, it is a good idea to make sure you actually like her, or one day you will realize you have some crazy stalker girl calling/texting you 20x an hour after you laid her, clinging to you ever so desperately, when all you wanted was a one night stand, you tell her stop, but she doesn't and you never thought to find out what sort of a person she is beyond how she looked, on top of that she could be boring/annoying to hang out with

in the future man, dis-interest and a girl acting up should not be dealt with by using compliments, you don't have to be rude or anything if that is not your personality, be certainly be assertive about dis-respect, either that or ignore her/walk away (if you don't have to be around her stop giving her your attention, you don't have to be treated that way, you only allow yourself to be treated that way by choice)

all your questions revolve around how you can please her, why?

why do you want to please her when she is being dis-respectful to you, when you invited her out?

what did you do that was wrong man?

she was the person doing something wrong and you stood idle and did nothing to correct the problem, her problems are not your problems, but if you would like to be with her, you better find ways around the problems between you and what you want from her (or find a girl that doesn't give you these problems), and you better be sure of what you want and willing to express your intentions without fear of being judged

and on top of that, get used to the fact that if you don't like her as a person, you don't need her, and it is much easier to go find another person who you like and ask them out, then to change a person you don't like into someone you do like (just because you are too lazy to go ask a different girl out or are attached to the way she looks and have actually talked to her)

there are billions of girls in world, get used to being able to move on if you find that one is not what you want, she can either stop doing what you don't like, or you can go find another girl that does not do that particular thing, you don't own her, she doesn't own you, and there is no bond between the two of you, you may come and go as you please, and vice versa

stop worrying about if it is going well for her, and worry about if it is going well for you, are you having fun on the date?, do you like her? (as a person, obviously you like her on a shallow level or you wouldn't have asked her out), if you have no chemistry and she sucks to be around, then what the hell are you wasting your time on her for?, just straight get to the point and try to have sex with her if that is all you want, if she sucks as a person and you don't care about her personality, then get to the point so you can get a quick answer to if that is going down and can get what you want or get blown out and move on without wasting your time on a person who you hate to spend time on

GOOD LUCK

Yeah, you are definitely right
I was being a fucking douchebag. i guess i had to be more assertive and disinterested. and truthfully, there was virtually no chemistery working so I shouldn't be seeing her


Thanks a lot guys.

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Question, were the friends she was calling dudes or women?

If she was texting/calling her girl friends you should not have freaked out.

If she was calling other guys, you have a problem.

I had a girl at my house last night who I developed a good rapport with the previous time. This last time she started calling guy "friends" I took it as a clear un-Ioi, and more or lest kicked her to the curb..

If you are this early in a relationship you need to manage expectations. Women especially these days with smart phones, are on them constantly and might not even realize they are being rude. Freaking out only lets them know they got you mad, and makes your look insecure. Two big mistakes.

You can't really blame her if she'd rather txt people who aren't overly emotional and aggressive douchebags that think cheap lines about her hair and eyes are priceless before running to online forums to call her a bitch.

And you have no idea who she was txting. It could have been important. If it really bugged you that much you could've asked "something important?" and she would've either gotten the idea or told you why she was doing it.

okay, what pissed me off was this and i think it is quite understandable.
I know she was texting her friends, although it made me a little uneasy, i was okay with it.

Then when I was telling her about something, she received a call in the middle of my sentence. Literally what the fuck, that was so rude and disrespectful. So i thought to myself, to hell with this girl, i don't want her. But still i wanted to assess the situation.

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She was bored with you. Simple. You become emotionally reactive just made shit even worst.

Yeah, i probably was, should have made myself more interesting

Thanks, i will keep that in my mind next time

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I don't like this: "Should have made myself more interesting" basically you would change yourself to appear more interesting. That normally just comes off as awkward.

Do not tell her that you were mad. Just joke around with her, and say something like: you know, people who text a lot are usually very horny people

Dude this is very common these days, people are so fixated on their phones they don't even realize they are doing it. Yes it is rude, but there is a good chance she is not even aware of the effect it had on you. Keep in mind that she is probably constantly doing these things throughout her day at work, with friends, on her own. It is most likely second nature and habit.


Just remember that she actually did come to meet and hang out with you, so the interest is there.

I suggest that you bring it up to her but in a non confrontational manner. Tell her how much it bothered you and how you felt about it. Then give her another chance, if she does it again. Then you can put her in her place.

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Yeah it just pissed the fuck out of me. i mean how dumb, literally stupid do you have to be to not know the fact that the guy in front of you had shown more interest than her friends who were asking her about her clubs. And thinking back upon it, i was really being myself so if whether she likes me or not, it's her fucking problem, not mine.

I might give her a second chance, just cuz i am so nice

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Exactly!!
I mean you clearly like her (Physical Features) so I think you oughta stop investing so much time in her and make your intentions clear. If she blows you out it's like "whatever" right? no big deal.

Now the fone incident that pissed you off : girls are on their fones even in church, and in classes basicly everywhere! why cause they dont feel the need to pay attention!! You needa make her wana pay attention, be alil more aggresive! a friend of mine invited me out once to a college Bar, I went to the rest room , came back and found her on her fone facebook'ing... I just went "Hey you gonna do that all night? "
She "haha no silly, I was just checking us into facebook"
from there i transitioned into chat about fones and social sites alike..
the main idea is to talk 'with' her not 'to' her, giving her cheap compliments which her response will most likely be "Thanks" or someting like that. as for her answering a call while you're talking and not say sorry for it, is alil rude! But thats how some girls are... So you needed to neg the shit outta her amigo.

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I'm gonna be straight up. I believe in every attraction there is a balance, whoever holds more power in the attraction cares the least(especially true of relationships). They consider themselves the most attractive person in the interaction and their confidence shows it.

You are fine to compliment girls, I'm a big fan of a good compliment(I compliment people all the time). Your mistake was in your body language while you did it. You put her above you and she agreed. I tell a woman she is beautiful all the time, I just don't sit there and say with my body language "you are above me". The point is for them to realize they are beautiful but they are just one of several beautiful women. Beautiful women are abundant, there is not a shortage of beautiful woman in this world. I would also rather compliment a woman's hair, apparel, or accessories as well, you are complimenting her personal choices. You are not some guy just into her for her looks. She may be happy to tell you more about her "choice" and than you got a genuine conversation not about her "day" which is really just a fill in the time conversation.

She lost interest in you because you didn't keep her interested. You talked about her day, that is boyfriend or best friend talk. You should have flirted made fun of her day and got to know her. You should have known what her passion is, made her laugh, and had some contagious fun.

When/if a woman answers her phone when I'm around I leave, I walk away on them to the restroom, outside, where ever, the point is to walk away on them. They sometimes put the phone down and ask something a long of the lines of "where you are going?" I just look at them and say "I don't want to be rude and eaves drop on your conversation. It's kind of weird sitting here listening to someone talk on the phone by yourself." With the right tone and style you basically are saying they are rude. You yourself are the one walking away, you hold the power because you show you care less.

When/if I come back and they ask "where I went?" I would respond the same way. However when I do return it is with my phone reading a book(if you have a good enough phone). If they are still on their phone talking I would tell them "shhh" with my finger on my mouth basically saying keep it down. If she wants to try giving me dirty looks, I would make comment on the rudeness involved here talking while you are reading. Again you point out rudeness but you do it in a way where you are implying they are the rude one. If she says something you always have the artillery of "If I'm rude for saying ssshhhh, what are you for picking up a phone call mid conversation?" Not angry but poking fun with a smile on your face. I would just leave at some point on her, I wouldn't stay around.

You need to keep her interest, you obviously didn't do it. Don't blame her for you not doing the "dance" and completing the interview to advance the courtship process. You ruined it in your interview(your lunch date). She may have been rude (undoubtedly), but you should not blame her. Your goal isn't just to build attraction, that is a need, but you also need to learn to build sexual tension. You didn't do that either. You didn't keep her interest, elevate the attraction, or build sexual tension otherwise she wouldn't have been on her phone.

I've noticed it is always more important to realize how we can improve ourselves from bad situation, other peoples behavior is more often than not a reaction to ours. When you accept your end of the deal, which is owning up to what you could have changed to make it better for the next time. If you are concerned with one emotion you are not looking at things neutrally so you can't grasp the situation. Is it rude? Yup, the idea is to center yourself and ask yourself a question: "how do you rehook your fish? "

I'd say move on from this one she isn't interested anymore, unless you got good text game then you can regain some interest.

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