Since I found out about PUA I find that I have become way too conscious about picking up girls. Throughout my life I never really ahd a problem with picking up girls and f-closing them. Lately I have found my safe paying too much attention to their body language, focusing alot on what I am saying and have therefore become alot more robotic with picking up girls. I dont even have a wing man anymore because he is locked down in a relationship and sarging on your own makes you feel like a sado lol.

Anyway my question is, how do you stop focusing on all of these things and just be yourself and be in the moment? I made the mistake of trying to improve my pick up skills when they were virtually flawless in the first place before I knew about all of this. Help!!!!

What aspect did you want to improve about PUA?

Easy don't think so dam much.

I think he means,.. why did you get involved in the whole PUA thing in the first place? What part of your natural game were you trying to improve upon?

It has been told to me by several people far smarter than I, that when you first try to pickup a skill it takes allot of work, and you get very little payback at first because your focusing consciously on what your doing. As time passes however; the skill becomes engraved into your subconscious, and you don't need to think about it so much anymore, that's when you really start to see the results.

Perhaps you just need to let that process happen?
I have a long way to go in this arena myself, so I'm not speaking from experience, but this seems true for every skill I have tried to acquire over my lifetime.
Whiskey

Oh,.. Whooops!

I thought the third reply, was the original replier, replying to the second question.

Whiskey

I don't think its possible to learn a million things at one time and you sound like you have ready way too much without actually trying the stuff one at a time. You can observe body language sitting by yourself at Starbucks.

I love how you say you were getting laid all the time with nothing, but something just compelled you to learn pickup techniques. Reaaaaallllllyyyyyy nowwwwww ha haha

sarging alone makes you a "sado" ? wtf is that ? sadomasochist ? I think its more like you wet your panties even thinking about going alone. Go out alone a couple of times. It ain't easy, but at least you will know what the challenges are. You say you don't have a wing, so you are fucked if you don't, so might as well try.

I know what you mean - I was there at one point. I have an easy fix.

Stop with the learning and posting. Stay off the forum and stay out of the books for a few weeks. Go out with friends not to pick up girls, just have fun and socialize.

It will take time but you'll feel human again.