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Your problem is that your calling them beautiful. They get that all the time, and complementing a stanger on their clothes isnt good. The only way a compliment will do you any good in game is if it is a 100% genuine comment. One you arent expecting a reaction back from. Also youll notice a lot of people will say when you do compliment you never compliment them on their natural beauty. Only on artificial things, and if you do you cant just be like " i really like your shirt" thats clearly bad game. It has to be genuine. Next time you try the direct approach try some other things. Direct doesnt mean suck up to them, it means clearly demonstrate interest.
Don't sweat it
1. Women are NOT expecting to be told they're hot in broad daylight on the street. By going out and doing it, you're already putting yourself in the top 0.1% of men who have real confidence.
2. All people LOVE compliments, regardless of what it's about, as long as it's done genuinely and doesn't feel like the person wants something out of them or is saying a "line."
=> I would say your problem comes down to the mechanics of your approach and the state you're in. If you run in and startle them, or walk up like you're a charity worker or trying to sell them something, they're not going to listen to your opener. Although, if you do startle them a bit, you can just start with "Hey, I didn't mean to startle you, but I just saw you walking by and....etc."
Next time, try doing this:
1. Get yourself a little in-state by just talking with a few people, like making a few jokes with a shop assistant, or chatting 5 minutes on the phone with a friend who always makes you laugh.
2. Always smile as you do your approach and opener. Smiling indicates your not a threat and makes people naturally open up to you.
3. Have confident body language and voice tonality - stand up tall and straight, hold eye contact and speak slowly and clearly.
4. Use a pacing and leading sentence structure in your opener. Pacing and leading is a great way to establish rapport. You start out with a statement that is definitely true and shows an understanding about how they're feeling. Then your next sentence leads them somewhere they might have been initially sceptical about, and they're more likely to accept it because you've grounded the conversation with something that they already agreed with.
My opener structure is
[pre-frame] + [situation] + [compliment] + [action]
so for example
[Hi! I know this is a bit random, but] +
+ [I think you're really cute so] +
This is my standard opener and I have to say, I very very rarely get a bad response, other than her just walking away.
It's good because you're acknowledging that what you're doing is quite random, but you're saying you were basically compelled to come over because you find her attractive. You're giving her a genuine compliment, and then you continue the interaction, showing that you're interested in finding out about her. You're displaying great confidence, and showing you're a man who isn't afraid to go after something he wants in life when the opportunity presents itself.
Keep up doing the daygame, and let us know how it goes after you try some of this stuff out!