does it look really lame and desperate if a girl tries to open a guy? i've never really tried it but i want to. im 17 so what do you guys think would be some good lines to use for the approach? or should i just let guys come to me?

It is a good feeling but kinda a shock if a women approaches you, (even if she is just lost and asks directions...) becuase pretty much no women even the once who are staring at you or begging you to approach them,hardly ever approach themselves and if you go direct (wow you are fucking hot or something!) then you will get even more of the shock factor....

line wise it depends if you are looking for day or night game...

I presume youre a girl right?
Well,tell us more about your situation.
How often are you approached by guys?
I dont really see a problem in girls approaching guys,this happens all the time actually.
Maybe you could ask a friend to help you too.

yea im a girl. i have noticed that this summer i have been approached a lot more than in previous months. it usually doesnt go anywhere though because im usually in shock and i just never know what to do.

like i went to a take out place to pick up a meal real quick and i was waiting for my ride and a guy came over to me (he was 21) and he said that he just had to come talk to me cuz i was adorable. i couldnt even think of anything witty to say because i was taken so off guard. so even when im approached nothing happens.

i dont even know how i could work on my inner game because if i want to, then i have to approach guys. i cant just wait for them to come to me, you know

I hate it when girls approach me, I like to be in control of things. I think the girl looks too forward and agressive and I like a challenge.

the worst thing you can do for me is make it too easy, I've just left girls who were all over me in 5 minutes.

I don't think you need to work on your inner game really but more your social skills. You freeze up because you don't know how to respond to such situations. I bet you if you work on your social skills and work on reacting better to when people throw you off you will find you be able to take things farther.

I don't know about you guys, but personally I have never seen a girl approach a guy.

I got approached by a girl once and it was fun, I was caught off guard.

I was sitting on a bench in front of a photo studio. There was a photo shoot that day, and I was waiting for my turn. That day I was dressed really nice.

A girl came out of nowhere, by the look of things she was on a "smoke break" and started a chat with me, by asking: "What's going on here?" And we started talking from there, I explained that I was waiting my turn for the photoshoot etc etc. It was a nice interaction.

I've been approached by the friends of my female friends, but this does not count. It's not a cold approach.

Anyway, I'd love to be approached by women! I don't care if they are ugly, I find this very interesting!

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Approaching men rarely pans out. As my cousin says, "be the gazelle - let him be the hunter. If the gazelle lopes up to the hunter, he will just kill it, skin it, and move on to bigger game."

The real art is setting your sights on a man and getting him to approach you.

Yep I'm sorry to say this but, usually when a women approaches and tries to seduce a guy she comes across as easy. Although don't let that fool you, that doesn't mean he won't change his mind later- i'm talking in general here of course, about the first impression and the changing of mind .

I don't know what it is, I think men just like to dominate the situation, for instance if you throw a neg to a man, usually I think most men will actually get offended, especially if that leads to his mates laughing at him. Whoever said a mans weakness is his pride?

So I'd say give out non- sexual compliment? Not "Your hot!"(quite sexual, he'll think your easy), or "Gosh Your hansom, shame about the shirt. . ."(a neg), try this instead "Your a really interesting guy" or "I'm really enjoying this conversation", use the "Would you hurry up and ask me on date!" attitude. So he's still seducing you, but your the one leading. I think that would defiantely work on me.

Or in hindsight you could even, instead actually approaching him, lure him over with a 'come hither' hand gesture? Then just say "seduce me!"

I've been picked up by girls twice, and it worked out great. The trick is to not be too direct, as it can scare the guy. Express interest in whatever he's doing at the time instead. If it's something you might do, ask him for tips. Guys love it when they're treated as an authority on things, and it restores our illusion of leading the game, so it removes the danger of him getting scared and messing up.

I think that if you're about to approach a guy, you should be ready for some awkward silences, because we're not expecting it, so be patient if a few moments of silence come up. Mostly it depents on a guy's experiance (if he's ever been approached) and on his way with women (is he good or bad). I've been approached one time and tottaly screwed up (she was REALLY direct), but now I kinda know how to handle it the next time it happens.

It's funny a girl was talking to me about this the other day. She talked about creating a "window of opportunity". This is created by:
-being in close proximity to the guy and having him face your profile.
-Make him feel comfortable by being with only one or two other friends.
-While your with your friends have a pleasent conversation to make yourself appear social but not too talkative as not to appear unappraochable.

I think the bottom line is that the guy needs to pull his weight. If he doesn't approach or approaches and lacks conversational skills then do you really want to carry the load of the interaction?

If you do find yourself in a conversation. The most important thing is eye contact, and calm body language. If i'm talking to a girl and she is fidgeting and looking away too often then I am not certain if anything can and will happen between me and her.

Just remember the guy is probably more nervous then you even though he might not appear to be nervous. That being said it doesn't matter what you say just that you look confident and not weird.