Hey guys, I've met this girl maybe 2 weeks ago, and basically met her through a friend. Got her number and we ended up hanging out once. We just went out and drank. Ever since, she hasn't texted back to hang out, although i did say if she wanted to go eat the day after, and she replied "just call me up", but i didn't end up calling cause i woke up late. It's been a few days. Should I text back, or call her back to eat or something? Don't know what to do, thanks for the help guys

Yeah call, why not?

We dont know how your day 2 went though. So it's really up to you buddy

It doesn't really sound like you've got a lot to lose by not calling her, but as was already said, no one on here knows how things are between the two of you.

call her, youve got nothing to lose man. there are plenty more out there for yah.

imo calling > texting, especially if you haven't talked to her in a few days and you don't know her that well.

I always call to follow up and only text girl i know i have build enough temperature with or if she know im a confident guy..

Calling shows confidence and it makes it easier for her to recall the feeling that you gave her..

imo..

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u should always call a girl ur trying to attract as texts can be misinterpreted as they have no tone to them. Plus , she cant not talk to u and if ur game is good enough this is all it should take

Yes, always call. It's important for building up comfort. I find girls always flake on a day 2 if there is no calling in between and only texts.

wow, thanks for the replies guys.

Well the problem is we go to different college, and im going back up this monday. I'm just wondering if its better to wait till next break (spring) and head to the beach or something with a few friends. It seems that most of the time i don't want to come out as a creep. She hasn't showed any sign of interest in me, imo. I guess that's why I'm semi-scared.
I wanted to take it slow, especially the fact that i've only met her like 2 weeks ago. and asking if she wants to eat with me might come out wrong. But i will def call her and try to see her 1 more time before i head up.

But hanging out second time, I don't want to get all touchy with her, although i herd kino is a great way to let a girl know. I guess it might be because she just came out of a relationship (friend told me).

p.s is the friend zone really that bad? I mean, wouldn't it be better to get to know them as a friend than ask them out? like the old saying, best friends become best couples? Sorry, havn't been in a relationship in a while, and because im older it gets tougher haha

Thanks guys

Once you get labelled as a friend, its difficult and even weird for a girl to see you as a mate. Yes some friends start dating, but only after years, IMO.

so how do i go about it? the main thing is i dont want to be a creep, but secondly i dont want to be her "friend". But the fact that she isnt my gf, and we have hung out twice, doesn't that label me as her friend?

Not nessecarily, you can still be building comfort.

Basically in the times she's with you, she needs to feel romantic and whisked off her feet, and then you dissapear like the lone ranger, leaving her wanting more. Oh and you let her know (with body language and speaking) that she's "gaining your interest" but maybe she has to work a bit harder yet, but she is definitely getting somewhere.

Still fine tuning that process myself there are times when I've done it right and times when I've stuffed it up. It's very situational for me at the moment, cause I'm still gaining experience.

When she has asked you to call up then you should. There is no point in texting IMO. She is comfortable with you so why do you want to text and show social shyness.

calling texting, there really is a difference, its possible to call her bad time, or when shes not on mood or doing somthing else,

personaly i prefer first to text, somthing "callback humor"(bring up shomthing funny when you last met hear ). that helps her get to "the mood". and when she replys, you know that she has phone on her hand, so its natural to answer it when you call

That's a good idea. For me, only if I have a really smart/funny message to send, pertaining to what's happened between us, I'll text.

But in most cases I've decided I'm better off just calling whenever, and mostly I'll try to time it at times when people are generally not doing something, eg. Sunday night, or straight after work at 6pm.

For me I'm so much better at talking than texting. There seems to be a danger of my texts being too wussy or too mean.