Dear all,

I know this girl from my course and she's an absolute STUNNER,Asian HB9 for me!!!! I have been making eye contact with her for quite some time now, but I never ever went to say hello to her. As the days went by, I always figured out what to say to her in my head, a day before I actually see her. Everytime, I dress up properly, get myself ready mentally and physically to approach and engage her, she never shows up. NEVER!! I have been talking to a friend of her's (a guy) and like you, he eventually saw that am falling for that girl. I am not gonna lie, I am falling for her!! She's an absolute beauty. Anyways, the other day, I was talking to my other friend, and just out of no where, he told me he knew that girl, blah blah blah. I was like great. This is make a great opener. The next day, she doesn't show up to lectures and then I decided to send her a message on FB without ADDING her!! So this is what I said in the message

'Its a coincidence that you know my friend...blah blah blah'.then, I ended the message with this 'question to be answered: Are you that shy?'.She eventually replied back and said, 'what do you mean by shy', I said "its plain simple, I have been doing eye contact with you for quite some time and you never came to say hello or are you just rude?" Then, I added quite a long thing, 'like before you start to do your Miss Detective, Let me do a deal with you, i'll take you out for a friendship introductory dinner this weekend'. I also wrote loads of things about the rules&regulations(E.g 50/50 pay share) and also made her feel more comfortable& teased her on how she did not to come and talk to me.lol. Remember I have never spoken to her before.

She eventually replied back and said she would have said yes, but she was going home this weekend. She excused herself to not coming to talk to me, etc'. I eventually said, ok there is still next week, so I pickup a day and time, and told her she better come and say hello to me now. She hasn't replied back to me so far and don't think she will

Here is my part: I don't want to show her that I am falling for her. Honestly, she sounds like an amazing girl with a good personality. but I don't want to mess up this time. I feel terribly anxious that if it eventually ends up with her saying NO, i'll be devastated. I try to keep my mind from wondering too far, as it is already thinking of her with me(eventually if i think too much of it, it won't happen).

So I need you people to help me. Have I gone too fast with her? I am chilled, relaxed about it. When I see her, it's not like my mouth drops on the floor. I control my emotions perfectly, but I want to game this girl!! I have a mindset of looking for a girlfriend!! So please help me!!

If you keep thinking like this it WILL become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Know, not think, that you will be able to get this girl if you play your cards right.
You might have come on a little strong but her response was pretty postive, so you probably havent fucked up.

Good luck, stay frosty.

Chillburg

I can sort of understand were your coming from but falling in love with a girl you've never spoke to is probably a bit far. I think you should try and get your friend to arrange something that your both "coincidently" invited to and then talk to her. Also start getting social proof so when ever she see's you she see's your with girl's and also her friends might notice

Yes I have to agree with him. Get social proof would makes things much better. Because when your able to do that. Then what goes inside her head that when she is with you, she won't feel embarrassed because every one else has approved of you.

Hey guys, thanx alot for the replies. social proof...mm interesting. I wish she could see me with girls everyday but unfortunately, women aren't attracted to me...so that will be very hard...

Then this is where your journey should start. Right at the start.

read some books like The game, mystery method/venusian arts, magic bullets, speed seduction, etc!

The chances of a girl being attracted to you when you havent tried to make them attracted to you isnt high so start gaming lesser girls to give yourself confidence and social proof

Guys guys guys....

Today maybe the day where it all FUCKED up!! Unless she does something. Here is what happened, I decided today to sit next to her guy friend in lectures today. She gave me that smile, and I held eye contact with her until she broke. Then she just started hiding behind her friend. lol...that made me laugh. While she gave me that smile, I gave this, 'nah, this ain't enough' look to her. Eventually, class started, I am a geek, so i get drawn into my lectures. After that, we had to move lecture rooms, so then, I decided, I'll sit in before she come in, either way she will have to sit next to me. Eventually, she came, and her friend was like 'go in' 'go in'. I was relaxed. Then she just started laughing sarcastically!! I turned to her, and looked at her with dead fixed eyes. She basically moved to the row in front of me then. I couldn't hold it, I was laughing in her face basically. When I got home, I wrote to her on facebook, I said ''u where saying you ain't shy and all this stuffs, but in the end you can't dare sit next to me''. I also told her the ''I am beautiful and I talk with people to please them' attitude doesn't work on me. Try someone else''. I soon got a message saying 'ur BEG(What does that mean, I DON'T KNOW)...Go Away..U ain't on my level anyway...Goodbye Loser friend:)" that is EXACTLY what she wrote!!

So Did I mess up? Honestly, she's acting up rite now, shit tests and all these stuff, but I am being relax, dominant and holding my ground: Being a MAN with confidence!. Shall I reply to her? What can I say? Please help. If you think its Fucked, do say it!! Don't worry...

Sorry it doesn't seem like a shit test it just seems she doesn't like you and beg means beg friend (someone who try's really hard to become someone else's friend and they're pretty disliked)

ahhhh, BEG means that. Well I don't how she can say that.I only started talking to her this past friday. Thats abt it...I don't fill her with messages! I play it low and relaxed...no idea!! But anyways, cheers for the reply!!