| Approaching and opening are the biggest factors to how your game works in my opinion. Depending on how well you do here is what can make or break your game. Lets think about this rationally for a minute. Men and women are not terribly different when it comes to the subject of annoyance. That being said, as a man, when you walk into a store and an associate approaches you trying to shove merchandise down your throat it annoys the crap out of you and you can not deny that. A man approaching and opening a woman is seen sort of this same way to the women. No matter how good your game is, unless the woman is specifically out and about to be picked up, she is going to be annoyed a little bit by you at first.
The best way i've found to over come this problem is simple. A woman will more than likely make a decision of whether or not she'd date you within 60 seconds of when you meet her. The best thing ive found to do is to make her wait on making that decision. Take her mind off of that for a minute and completely dis-arm her. Make her think that you aren't interested in her at all at first. If the girl thinks that you aren't there to hit on her, then odds are she will listen to what you have to say a lot faster.
Now with that in mind.. I've come up with a great way to approach and open that not only works, but has almost completely erased opening anxiety on my part. A lot of men are just to nervous to open correctly. This method sort of tricks yourself into really believing that you arent intending to hit on the women you approach. When you actually believe that your mission isn't to hit on the women or even take her home right away, then that should erase a lot of your nervousness.
Some would probably not like this technique and it isn't something that will allow you take home a woman that night, it could, but unless your game is advanced then its unlikely. The main concept in this technique is to approach the girl, dis-arm her and then either get her number, or facebook, myspace, email.. you get the point.. some sort of communication without being a nervous nancy while doing it. Venue is also very vital to this technique, it works best at concerts. I have never personally met a woman that did not enjoy attending concerts in one way or another. The second big point here is to create an illusion for yourself, make the girl think your a concert promoter. This is very easily done. Think up a witty name for a promotions page and create a myspace and facebook for it. Go to local concerts, and even big concerts. Familiarize yourself with the scene. Get to know some of the people that work the venues, are in bands, or even just attend shows on a regular basis. Do your best to collect as many up coming show flyers as you possibly can. You can go on the internet and find show flyers for your town all over the place and just print them out. Put a couple of these shows up on your promotion pages and add random people from your city. Once you've got around a hundred or so friends, that should be convincing enough.
Once your familiar with the scene and have your pages ready. Get your flyers together and also bring a long a clip board. If you want to get really detailed like i do then you can use MS word to make a couple pages that have places for names, emails, myspace, facebook, and phone numbers. Go to a random show, any show you'd like to go to and look for a girl you'd like to pick up. When you have found a candidate, approach her but instead of attempting some sort of witty pick up.. find a way to explain that you are a promoter and ask her what kind of music she likes. Lie of course and act surprised.. say something like "wow, what a coincidence that's the genre i promote the majority of" This is important.. DO NOT ASK HER IF SHE WILL GIVE YOU HER NUMBER OR EMAIL OR WHATEVER.. if he say "would you like to give me your number?" she has the option to say no. Say something more like "What's your email?(or myspace, facebook, email.. which ever you perfer or think would be the easiest to get) and then explain that you can keep her updated on up coming shows and the newest bands in that genre coming out. I've found that about 80 percent of the time they will give you some sort of way to reach them. Once you've gotten the number or whatever, then the battle is over. Sure she might not know you are interested yet, but you can accomplish that later. You'll only have to up hold the charade for a short period of time, it will be apparent soon that either she shares your interest or doesnt. Take things slow and be presistant.. its not 100 percent effective.. but its easy and anyone can do it..
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