Hey, I need some advice for this weekend. I'm dating a couple girls and one of them works at this restaurant on the beach. A few friends of mine are hooking me up with another chick on Friday night at the same damn restaurant! It's for a birthday party so I can't suggest a change of venue. The girl I'm dating isn't supposed to be working that night, but her friends recognize me and will obviously relay anything suspicious to her. I need to show this new chick some attention, kino, and basically run game on her. But I can't make it too obvious. Any advice??

The other chick doesn't know you date other women. OooOoo man I usually tell the girls I date around. Most of them are cool with that.

Yea dude, AFC's lie. I'd just b honest with the girl but since you not already told her, mayb just escalate the kino when you leave the resturant when you head to a bar later.

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The Kid

Alright, buddy... Let's talk discreet game.

I'm not sure why you didn't SOI with something related to non-exclusivity in relationships, but you've obviously got your reasons, and I'm not going to judge on that. But you are going to need some serious social manoevering to get around this situation.

Keep kino low-level to start. Make yourself a 'touchy person.' When you talk, touch her arms, her hands. If she talks with her hands, stop them with your own, and explain to your LTR's friends that you're saving other guests from injury (should they question you on it). Utilize strong, sudden relate-rewards; escalate a lot faster than you would normally, but make sure you're push-pulling it just as extremely. When it comes to a head, venue-change and exit the party discreetly and politely. Make sure you have an ulterior motive for leaving. Whispered: "Hey, this girl is really drunk. I've got to get her home before she makes a fool of herself." Then break out your real game.

And then never, ever get into this situation again. Part of your SOI routines should involve non-exclusivity. "Love is so fleeting, you know? I'd hate to think I'm missing out on some great girl because I'm kept down by one relationship. And I'd never tell a girl she couldn't see other people. There's just so much both of us could miss." Or something similar. Keep your frame in mind. If you believe you should have a harem, and that there is nothing wrong with having a harem, the girls you are with will not disagree because your reality is the stronger.

Being honest with the whole exclusivity thing has always been a problem for me. The thing is, I started dating this girl over a month ago (a couple weeks into the StyleLife Challenge). I never suggested to her that we be exclusive, but after we had sex, I'm sure she EXPECTS exclusivity. Right? I think if I tell her what you suggested, it will end the relationship. If it does, than I guess I learned my lesson. The bad thing, is that I will probably lose the sex thing whenever I want.

This should ALWAYS be used in the beginning of your game. Set your expectations on the table. Don't hide them. Don't lie to her about your monogamous nature when you don't have one.

Keep a good frame, ensure that your reality is dominant, and impose it on her. Remember, if you believe you should have a harem, and that there is nothing wrong with having a harem, the girls will not disagree with you. I personally believe the girls in my harem should have harems too, so it's not like I'm keeping them on a tight leash or something.

In your position, Diversion, you may need to do some relationship "Negotiation." Some re-definition of your relationship's boundaries. Sit down with her and talk about it. Be warned, though, that you may well lose this relationship because of changed expectations. It's the price we pay for the Game we play.