This is the step before opening up/approaching a girl so I guess the closest/most relevant forum section to ask this is here.
Anyway, the advice on this site all seems good and even logic-defying (as in it makes so much sense it is just basic logic, I've seen points which don't require a genius to work out, but it's just basic sense). But it seems a waste of time because I can't meet new girls (not a fault of the people who provide the advice, but a personal issue I need to eradicate). Let me explain why:
I will list all the common places to find girls, and how they don't work. Firstly, I work in a very specialised and skilled profession (programming, in case anyone here does that). Unfortunately, all large companies outsource this work to small companies in India where the rate of labour is cheap (quality of living, things there are cheap, and I too am Indian). This means I can only work for a small company and not only are the chances of meeting compatible girls in a small company low, but programming and computers are a very male dominated industry. My profession requires me to be mentally very sharp, but my craving for a woman figure (and I have a mum, but that's not the same thing) also makes me put in lacklustre performance when I do the same stuff at home as I would do at work. My performance at work (and I have a feeling it will never be what it once was) will be low, and it will not be due to my abilities.
Clubbing/raving is another way to meet girls, but I have been to clubs and it's not my scene (boring, even with the music I like, not the place to meet people as you can't hear, etc).
As for joining clubs, that too is not a good idea as all my interests are pretty male dominated.
Any creative suggestions? Or am I just screwed?
Thanks