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I understand the necessity/concept of a time constraint, but i often find that when I deliver it during an approach, it sounds like Im wussying out to the girl or that it conveys to her that I am uncomfortable.
This is always my first impression when I deliver a time constraint, and although the feeling may be mitigated by smooth talking, I always feel less ALPHA when delivering the time constraint.
I often throw in the time constraint quickly (1-2mins during the set) because I have seen others doing it. Maybe its best used as a way of ending the set?
Is it just me or is there more to delivering a time constraint that I am not aware of?
The idea of the False Time Constraint is that they don't have the thought running through their head of "When is this guy leaving?" They don't have that thought because you told them already.
The other thing behind the False Time Constraint is that you are on your way to hang with your friends or whatever and you were passing by. You asked them a question, but then as you're leaving all of a sudden something about the group caused you to stay with them. Then you stay. It's suppose to look more natural.
I think a verbal False Time Constraint is important to use, however, a non-verbal works equally as well. A non-verbal would be something like body rocking out as you run your opener. You are asking them but you keep your body pointed away and even rock your weight to your foot like you're about to walk away. Then like I said something catches your "High social value attention" and then you stay.
Combining the two of these is the most effective way to do it. You're just a high value guy on your way to getting back to your friends and then you decided to talk to them. So....."Let me get your opinion on something. I have to get back to my friends here in a bit, but....INSERT OPENER."
Hope it helps