Hi all,

I've been reading the stuff about making open-ended statements, and putting emotion into what I am saying.

I need some advice on how to use this at a mates singles party tonight. I do well if the person is automatically friendly and bubbly and likes to talk a lot. They give you loads of hooks to keep the convo going.

I can sometimes do quite well at throwing hooks into my conversations, but am really bad at the initial part of getting comfort and attraction with her.

So yeah I'm looking for some advice and examples of what I can say. Some topics I have are:

1. Whether they've been to the venue before, is this their first singles party?
2. Work
3. Their drink - I like to experiment so am always keen to know what people drink plus I try and get people to try something new

Not really sure what else - any suggestions?

Okay so I think I put a bit of emotion into what I'm saying.

Work - I normally say 'yeah I really enjoy my job because there's a lot of variety and I actually enjoy going to work. Plus the people I work with are really fun.

How is that?

What you think? Any thoughts? All suggestions and advice are appreciated

I do have one gimmicky magic trick that one of my popular female friends liked, and a good joke. Also have a few stories that I can share but I have trouble guiding the conversation to a point where they will fit in.

If you can move from attraction to comfort then u should be somewhere near !

When u pass attraction stage. Be yourself. Most importantly HB must think that her partner must be genuine and same time have high values.
This gives her comfort.

When you know that the conversation start to get boring, cut off the tread and start new one. Including when HB talks about boring or sad stuff. Just cut it off.

People tends to be attracted by those who is similar in some ways.

Act like you are the one.

Demostrate high value by

eg: Ask her what is her job .

She will then ask you about yours.

This time you can tell a story that what you wana be when you are young.

The time you failed and tried to give up.

The time you finally suceed and who are you now.

Remember to be genuine all the time when u reach comfort stage bro.
All the best !!

snoppy

I was so pumped that night, I was on fire. Approached tons of girls - even girls that weren't part of the event. I didn't realise they weren't so my approach mindset was 'these girls came along to meet guys' and so I just rocked up with high energy and introduced myself as though it was normal. One of the girls was all over me - hand on arm, then both on my upper chest sort of running them down to my nametag and even hugged me. But then they left lol. One girl was really hott, I swear she looked no more than 25. And she told me I was very charismatic which seriously pumped me up.

I reckon that night was a life-changing event. You know when something happens and you think 'holy sh*t'. Even one girl waved her hand in front of her nose (something didn't smell right to her) so I said 'hey, it wasn't me' lol and she laughed and patted me on the hand.

Even managed to get a girl to stop and chat to me for 5 or so minutes. her friend went on and waited for her lol.

I only got one number but hey I'm more interested in getting AA out of the way.

In response to snoppy, thanks for hte advice. I disagree with interrupting someone when they're talking but that's just me.

Glad you had a good time . . . you sound like you meshed well with the crowd which means you probably have the confidence and comfort level to take this to the next level. Just a few things about your topic choices.

#3, isn't bad. It's something you can discuss for a minute and you're done. #1. and #2. are cliche's that should be avoided. "You come here often?" = "Oh, you're a lonely girl who has nothing better to do than coming to these events/bars?". . . and work is just plain boring.

The reason you go to these things is not to just meet and giggle but to create attraction. You want to make it impossible for them to not shove their #'s in your pocket. You want to make them fall in love with you. talking about "work" and "venue of choice" simply doesn't cut it. Women want adventure. They want to hear something unique. . . Different. . .And if you can bring them into your fantasy . . . it seals the deal.

So . . . instead talking about directions to the bar and how nice the bar looks and what happened at the office (this is what men love to chat about) go for something like,

Snowboarding Italian alps, Scuba Trip in Vietnam, Motorcycling in Germany, etc . . . But the way you frame it isn't, "I did this and I did that and I am great." You bring them into your fantasy . . "Can you imagine?" "what's your dream holiday?", etc . . . then, "Oh . . . that's perfect. We're calling in sick tomorrow . . . for a week . . . we are soooo going to Malaysia tomorrow . . ." High fives . . .

And in all your verbal exchanges, try to demonstrate, 1. predisposition to be loved my women. 2. Leader of men. 3. Care for loved ones. 4. Show range of normal emotions. I can give you examples but I'm sure can figure out a bunch of your own.

[i can see the party is kind of in the past, but i post anyway,,]

instead of talking full time about, eg, your work, you can always comment with some details what you do for living and find the way to add some funny phrase or expression about it. this way:

a- all in all, you'll be still talking about it
b- it's pretty sure you make her laugh or even smile, big point in favour.
c- even though you rehearsed the quote for the last three days (i know i have too much free time), she'll see you as someone very fast and creative, with a curious sense of humor.

eg:

PUA: "right now i'm in college, studying marketing.. a pretty interesting carrer u know? i'm aware ppl say marketeers are very lazy but read my lips.. i know what's to work hard. I love work, it fascinates me... i can sit and look at it for hours!"

that last liner i stole from some quotes site (love to collect them) but you see my point.. you seem to be talking seriously and all the sudden, before she knows she laughing.. surprise is beneficial in almost every aspect, and specially when it comes to good humor, it's not the exception

it's an awesome way to build rapport, trust me.. it even leads to KINO as you are free to touch while she's laughing!