I was texting back and forth pretty constantly for a few days with an HB10 from OKC. She begged to meet up Thursday night with like an hour's notice, but I was busy so I told her to do Friday instead. She seemed kinda hurt, but I told her genuinely that I couldn't and to not take it personally (she seems kinda sensitive?). I prefer meeting girls on the weeknights since we both have friends to hang with on the weekends, but we had been talking so much that I thought it'd get awkward putting it off longer.

She ended up being out with like 5 girls, 2 of which had just become single, and I arrived alone before meeting up with friends at another bar. Some of the time we were super close and getting along, but other times she was clearly acting out if it and most likely testing me pretty hard (texting, dancing with the girls, etc.). I kept my cool and told her that it wasn't the best idea to meet up while we both clearly had friends to hang out with, and we should just do it again soon. Before leaving, I grabbed her by the wrist and brought her into a hallway to make-out really quickly (I think this move might've salvaged the night).

We texted a few times back and forth since then, but she's clearly been less responsive (as have I, in response, I suppose).

Any ideas on how to go forward? Should I freeze her out for a few days? Push the banter a little more? I have her IM and we chatted alot at work before...I was thinking that staring it up there would be the most natural way to get into it again.

I could really use some help...while I have plenty of girls on the burner, I'd thoroughly enjoy seeing this one through.

Thanks!

Put this one in the deep freezer for a while.

Go visit your old haunts.

That should give you some perspective.

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Thanks...I was thinking about it a little more, and I actually might've made a mistake a lot of guys do with HB10s.

I think I took for granted that she had a high self-esteem, so I felt the need to show a strong frame pretty often. I didn't meet up with her on Thursday night to go to the gym, then I met up with her on Friday and bounced pretty quickly but before grabbing her for a quick make out. I'm starting to think that she's feeling a little used/taken advantage of, especially considering that we met online and had been texting like crazy leading up to those events.

You think I'm crazy, or is that on the money? I think the best way to handle it is completely freeze her out until Thursday or Sunday and invite her to something substantial like dinner, that would show I'm committed and someone she can trust. Part of my issue might've been sticking with attraction building while she was already ready for me to build comfort.

Thoughts? I think this might be applicable to a lot of PUAs out there...

So, you're going to ignore her and then suddenly hit her up with a dinner offer?

I can't see any semblance of logic in that statement.

Just keep her at a professional distance for some time, see some other women and do go too hyper on her. She's probably not analyzing as much as you think she is.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "