My sister and I have have been reading this forum for a couple of years; very interesting. She is a 21-year-old professional soldier, military intelligence, and it's so funny to be out with her and watch guys try to pick her up! Highly entertaining (she's never mean though).
My issue is that she is currently on deployment in a remote and very dangerous region, and not 1, but 2 ex-bf's from high school have tried to online/phone game her. Okay, she works 12 hours a day with 2 days off a month. Both of these guys have become upset with her and behaved like total asses because they can't contact her when they please and control the situation. Come on, guys! She's in a remote area, has sporadic internet/phone services, and is frankly more worried about not getting blown up in a rocket/mortar attack or by an IED!!! One of the guys (a week after telling her how much he still loves her) didn't even have the decency to answer her text when she was in the hospital having shrapnel removed from her leg after she was wounded in a rocket attack! Why would any man do this? Please guys, show some respect towards our soldiers, women are over there getting killed and injured too.

Sorry for the lecture. I would interested in any insights! I'll explain the situation a bit more.
Both of these ex's used the same technique. They have pretty much stalked my sister for the last 5 years, told mutual friends that they would love to be exclusive with her, then they both contacted her, totally devoted themselves to her, then poof...disappeared.
Ex-bf #1 is also a soldier. He got my sister interested about 5 years ago in HS, after a few days he disappeared. He tried several times just to get her to talk to him, then 3 years ago they dated for 2 weeks, he disappeared for a while. 6 months ago he contacted her on fb, talked to her nonstop for 2 weeks, then yep, disappeared again. This time though he had added my parents to his fb friends list and my mom caught him logging onto fb as soon as my sister logged off, then writing and flirting with other girls. My sister ignored him after that, but once a month (until she finally had to delete her profile) he sent her cutesy posts and comments. The no-contact rule (ever!) is firmly in place for this loser.
Ex-bf #2 has been trying to get my sister to talk to him for the past 4 years. Finally he had mutual friends contact her, talked to her every day for 3 weeks while she was home on leave, declared his undying love and made plans for their future together, then disappeared. He'll get in touch with her again I'm sure. I'm guessing they are trying to "juggle" women, but why would they go this far with someone they may never see again? She is a career soldier and moves around constantly.
Seems like a lot of trouble to go to. Any thoughts on this?

I'm sorry but I don't think our views are any helpful beyond pick-up.

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I've read a lot of posts on here that go beyond the initial pickup. Guys wanting to get back with ex-gf's, etc. Thanks though.

From what I've read, these guys don't deserve to get back with any girl.

Let alone her.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Aw, thanks! Yeah she is so awesome, (and all of the guys we know have rated her a HB9-10 since middle school- I'm not even joking) but not into herself at all. She's an adrenalin junkie, and is into classic cars, metal bands, and is getting a motorcycle when she gets back from deployment. She's been into martial arts, even MMA, since HS and has been recommended for Air Assault School after she finishes NCO training. I wish more younger guys could see the value of having a friendship/relationship with someone who is very cool and active, and fun to hang out with. I'll tell her to hang in there

Send me her number I will sort her out

Lol! She might hurt me if I give out her # jk, but when she gets back to the States I'm going to recommend that she join this site. For some weird reason (I guess because we're Navy brats and moved around a lot) she's shy meeting new guys, and it comes off standoffish and uninterested. The funny thing too is that she's more into a guy's personality and interests instead of looks, and so a lot of fun but average-looking men won't even approach her- when really she meets those I'm-so-hot-I-can-get-any-girl men every day in the Army (especially those SF guys!). Thanks, maybe I can have some hope now that she'll meet a decent guy

I'm around her age and well, she sounds wonderful.

But, you're selling a bit too hard.

I can tell you this, that your sister will find a deserving guy. I don't feel gay for saying that either.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Haha, thanks! I'll switch to the soft-sell lol. I guess she's lucky then not to live near me. No your comment didn't sound gay. Really, though, you're only in your early-20's? You seem so much more mature, not to mention smooth, and I mean that as a compliment- very 1960's debonair-cool. I'm sure that you have lots of luck with the ladies

GET A ROOM

I've read several other posts of his, they're always spot-on. The man is gifted. What is wrong with my giving him a sincere compliment?

"I'm not interested in preserving the status quo; I want to overthrow it" ~ Niccolo Machiavelli

So here's the deal- when we meet someone new, we're all projecting an enhanced version of ourselves in order to make that person believe that they will be better off, in some way, because of that chance encounter. You don't meet someone, build rapport and then say, "things have started off great, but tonight we'll have the most boring sex that I've ever had," or "we'll have a wonderful time for 2 months until you cheat on me," ect.
Instead, you're trying to establish a FANTASY. Charm and manners with a hint of mystery. By reading this man's posts, I instantly pictured 1960's London- a modern flat-right? (I have no clue where he's from, but hey it's my fantasy so I envisioned London), a tailored suit with a skinny tie, chilled martinis, you get the picture. If you have confidence and an established persona (it has to be in tune with your personality) then you will pull her right along with you.

Please, please.

I am very honored.

Thank you.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Both those guys sound like dicks and not PUAs. Its almost like your going to a church and asking why athiest hate god.

PUAs love women and work on understanding them as aposed to changing them, which I would say is the greatest proof of love.

Doesn't you sister know alot of tough guys that could straighten these two out.