| I was recently on PoF. Had to get away from it because it became too distracting and I'm engineering student so I don't have much time for it. When I first joined the site, a few weeks ago, I wasn't getting any responses from my opening messages. I decided employ some of Race de Priest's techniques for my profile and openers. This improved the number interactions I was having with girls on the site. I met this one particulat HB7/7.5 and we hit it off immediately.
A week later after daily inbox messaging I managed to set up a meet up which allowed me to #close. My plan was to meet 2 days later in the afternoon where we could get coffee or lunch or whatever, then go see a movie. She agreed and I said I'd call her the next day to properly set things up. Well, she didn't answer my call lol. I didn't think too much of it because she seemed pretty down so I left a text saying she must get back to me when she can (It turned out that she flaked on me because she has overprotective parents - we both uni students but she lives at home). She texted me a day later, when we were supposed to meet, saying she got really sick but I brushed it off and showed that I wasn't too bothered she flaked.
So then we started texting almost each day for the following week, getting to know one another a little bit better. The following weekend my buddy was having his bday party with a champagne theme and semi-formal dress code. I thought it could be a good opportunity and invited her over. She agreed. She gave me LMR on the day but I managed to get past that. When she came over we managed to have a long talk cause I decided on walking to my buddy's place. When we got to the patry she was kinda nervous and felt out of place cause I'm African and it was mainly Africans at this party and she's Irish-Canadian. But I managed to ease her and she started feeling comfortable and then we started kino-escalating. Maybe it was too fast but it didn't feel wrong. When we all left my buddies place to go to a club, me and this girl were all over each other like bf, gf.
So then it came to the club. Even though we were decked out in formal wear I kinda had a problem cause I was wearing a hat and the bouncers forced me to remove it. It was a problem for me because recently I had a terrible rugby injury which cut my head open and needed sutures. It left me with a noticeable scar on my forehead which I'll be soon getting laser SPAM for. Till then, I usually wear a hat to protect it from sunlight and also, I'll admit, I'm embarrassed. I was bullied during high school cause I had bad acne so I'm a bit insecure in that regard. I showed her my injury when we first met and she was cool with it but when we got to the club, I didn't feel comfortable anymore so I couldn't feel composed and confident. I made some excuse for us to leave that club and my friends. When we were outside she wanted to know the real reason and I had an AFC moment in revealing that I felt embarrassed without my hat (I know, I'm a big vagina when it comes to that, can't help it). I don't know how she took it. She said it was fine that I didn't keep it closeted in but I know, from pua and this forum, that that was unattractive.
I took her to another club which had no dress code and we had fun again. She told me she didn't like the music at the other club anyway and that this was better. We were pretty much all over each other the whole night and were making out at this club. I didn't f-close cause it was technically the first date lol and she had to go somewhere early in the morning anyway so we left the club, took the subway home. We were talking about finally going to see that movie like we were supposed to. I got a kiss good night and we went our seperate ways.
The next day that AFC moment of mine, where I felt embarrassed, was eating away at me and I thought it was pretty much over with this chick. I texted her a bit the following day. She gave me ok/standard responses I guess. I thought she wasn't interested anymore (cause of what happened) and decided to end things to which I got no response. Later I thought I may have overreacted.
It's been under two weeks and there's been no contact. Call it oneitis but I really would like to see her again. Is there anything I can do get things going again? I was thinking of calling but I wonder if she'll pick up. Maybe sending a funny text would do? I don't know, could you fellas help me out?
Is there anything I can do or should I just forget about it, learn from my mistake, and move on?
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