So, I changed my profile to be more like the BS one I created as a joke (see different post titled "PlentyOfFunny"). I am having amazing results. I have more dates than I can handle. I've had to cancel a few because I double booked.

The trick is that my aggressive messages are congruent with my profile. Here's an example of a conversation that's led to a date and a phone number.

me: i am interested in going on a date with you. what do you say? [congruent with my profile that basically states I'm interested in meeting up, not playing chatty games. This one is VERY straight forward. No chit chat. Nothing. it was sort of an experiment gone right. but the truth is, a lot of these short, blunt messages turn out well for me. also, she is about 10 years older than me, and not trying to mess around. girls in their mid-30s really appreciate the straight-forwardness]

her: heh. You're probably far too young for me, but we might at least have a good time over a few drinks. [at this point, I already known it's on]

me: Hey, don't be so sure. The last woman I dated was 38 A few drinks sounds good. Tomorrow morning? Mimosas? Just kidding. How about...friday night? [reassuring her it's not just about sex so she doesn't flake, and being playful and funny about the date. showing that I'm not taking it too seriously]

her: lol. You got a name, Mr. Friday night? You might have a date if you can at least give that up. If you say Ron Mexico, you die.

me: *my name*. What's your name? How about my place? [congruent with my "First Date" portion which says that the first date should be at my place. also, most women won't want to come over to your house for the first date, so they step back to a public place. but guess what? we still get what we want...a date. also, I tested her because her first reply back was so positive. So, I give it a shot.]

her: Hi * my name*...*her name*, here. How about a public venue first, like the *bar*? Some pool, darts, drinks? [just as I suspected...going for a public place first. very typical]

me: Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. [I'm testing here. She might respond "lol fine your place" or she might respond "public place only." This is a feeler.]

her: Pass. [she won't come to my place. That's fine]

me: I was thinking about which bar the *bar* is. It's the two story one right? With the little video games part at the front? Yeah, that bar is pretty fun. If you can handle get beat at darts, then I'm down [playing it off like the "hmmmm" was me thinking about which bar she was talking about, rather than disappointment about her not coming to my place. I make it seem like she was being too rash by just trying to end the conversation.]

her: Yes, it's the one by the train station. Please, I'm cricket master - you will be pwnd. [not a fan of the use of "pwn" but I let it slide]

me: cricket master? oh, this turned from a bar night to an English wannabe-baseball sport competition? What the...what time do you want to meet? what's your #? [normally, I set the time and I don't ask, I tell. But I have about 3 other conversations going and I'm feeling lazy. also, I'm twisting her words. Obviously, she wasn't talking about the sport cricket...]

her: haha. We could up the ante and force the loser to speak in a British accent when ordering drinks. How about 7pm? *her number*. Yours? [I like this. She seems fun and playful. and she complied with my phone number request]

me: Bet accepted. Though, I feel like maybe I'm getting hustled here. Lol! 7 pm sounds great. I'll be the drunk guy who looks like he's been there all day. Just kidding (you hope) My number is *my number*. [showing that I'm not going to back down from a challenge. also, being playful about being a drunkard and being mysterious]

her: Haha. I'll see you there at 7pm. Oh...and I normally straighten my hair, so don't be expecting the curls to make an appearance. ; [qualifying herself to me. perfect]

me: I knew you wouldn't look anything like your picture. Fkn internet dating. cya tomorrow, *her name*. [teasing her]

her: You might be pleasantly surprised...we shall see....lol


me: I like your confidence. And I was totally kidding. [it was time for a compliment. the part about "kidding" was a mistake, I should have left that part out. it reeks of desperation. but it didn't matter much here]

her: lol. I wasn't. I'm totally ready to throw down with your law-seeking ass. Trust me, you're on the witness stand, too. lol.

me: well shit. I see how it is. Prison rules. [being playful]

her: It's called "street justice" where I come from....SD boy.

me: oh, where do you come from? A Turkish prison? [a crack about some lame comment in her profile. kind of dumb looking back. oh well].

her: most would call it that...we'll have a chat about CA in the near future. [letting me know she is also from CA. I note this and will bring it up tomorrow if conversation is ever turning stale]



you might think to yourself: "you got the date, why keep chatting?" I'm building rapport. The thing about being so aggressive in the beginning is that it might lead to flaking if the only conversation is "hey wanna go on a date with me? great, what is your #? cya tomorrow." Now, she is very interested in meeting me because she thinks I'm fun and interesting and she is curious.


also, one last thing. I plan on being extremely aggressive in this date. she made it clear that I'm too young for her, but showed interesting in "having fun over a few drinks." This means that she is interested in a physical relationship and she doesn't want to mess around. So I'm not going to be all shy and careful. I plan on making quick advances.