Me: I was totally into your profile until I scrolled back up to send you a message and saw that you were a Taurus. I don't think we'd get along very well since I'm a Taurus as well What do you think?

PS: Incubus is an awesome band.

....8 days later no response (but saw she viewed my profile)


Me: So you check out my profile but no message? What not hot enough for you? Its ok I can take it.


Her: haha I'm sorry I was only on for a sec but I didn't say i wasn't impressed! You're a cutie

Me: Thank you, looks are not everything though So what do you have going for you other than your nice smile ? I see your studying to become a veterinary technician. That's really neat, I love animals. Other than that, what else do you want to do with your life?


.....she logs in 18 hours later and didn't respond. 48 hours later I still have no response.


Where did I go wrong and what should I have said (for future reference)?

I'm thinking, you didn't make any obvious mistakes that would cause her to reject you. There's nothing particularly wrong with your light banter, and your neg cloaked in a compliment strikes the right balance.

On the other hand, you didn't do anything to differentiate yourself from the pack. She's hot, so presumably bombarded by a lot of messages. 8 days ago she didn't reject you, but you didn't say anything, or put anything in your own personal, that made her think "Wow, I need to talk to THIS" guy. Light banter is great in its place, it's good that you can do it without AFCing yourself, but really where's the selling point in light banter alone? What's going to grab her by the tits, squeeze her nipples, and say you want to talk to THIS guy? So, she responded when you contacted her again, because you showed some interest and you weren't obviously a reject. But you didn't add anything that would WOW her so now she's not bothering to reply back.

What would WOW her? That depends on her personal. Does she have any interesting info to go on in her personal, or is she another one of these dullards who "likes to have fun, is easygoing" and doesn't say anything else? Looks like you were fishing in the right direction for what she values, the vet tech stuff. But instead of asking about vet tech stuff, perhaps you should tell her a story about animals. Google for a story about animal abuse, maybe that will work. I've never actually tried that with the various vet techs I've run into. In principle I should be able to talk about animals at great length, because I have a dog. In practice I've found that owning a dog doesn't mean I have anything else in common with a woman. I can't tell you "how to crack a vet tech" because I've not been sufficiently interested to try. I know that a woman who "loves animals" has gotta have some inroads somewhere though.

Does your own personal have any WOW to it, that differentiates yourself from all the meatheads out there?

All women, who are mentally healthy, want to be appreciated. Appreciate her right out the gate. It's important to challenge her, too, but talking about how you won't get along at the start has never once gotten me a date. She's clearly interested, you're just not hitting her switches. What is your goal? To meet up and talk in person, right? Your message, like so many other failed messages, makes it look like you're happy just to "get to know her" online. She'll get back to you if she feels like it, but you're losing her interest with small talk.

Also, I used your message as an example on a topic I made, hope you don't mind. here-vp432390.html#432390

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