i used to sleep, eat and breathe the pua life style...until i got a gf lol...now, that my relationship is slowly goin down hill. i've started to get back into the art of pick up....anywayz, here's my situation. i know i prob can't recover from this one but, if i could find a way around it for future reference it would help me out.

soo, the other day this hb sent me a friend request of facebook. i know her. we both kinda have a history. we talked on off a few years ago but, nothin ever happened due to other people runnin their mouth's and spreading rumors. but, here's how the convo went.

me: hey stranger! wut u been up to

hb: not to m,uch just school and staying busy. wbu?

me: psh, all i do is work anymore. between working in kingston, running my business and saving the world from evil villans it seems like i never have any time for myself anymore

hb: bahahahaha

me: u get all yur christmas shopping done? i gotta go after work. I hope the dollar stores not packed lol..jk. I just got everyone booze this year

hb: hahaha no, i wanted to go today but, i'm to lazy...can't go wrong with liqour.

me: well u better hurry up and get iut done. theres only 4 days left til christmas! (i've been countin down since september) lol...u still goin to dcc?

hb: hahaha uh no i graduated over a year ago and i'm goin to school for cardiovascular now

me: thats a good firld to get into. all you gotta do is hook up with a hosiptal and yur set....so are you up here on break?

hb: no i still live at home...i start my internship at vassar hospital in febuary

me: thats cool. Vassars a good hospital to get into...yo, here's my number ######## we should chill sometime.

hb: don't u have a gf??

me: were just friends....and don't u have a bf??

hb: no we broke up a month ago bc he cheated...a lot...

me: that sucks! u don't deserve someone like that...i saw u went to meaghan sun. Thats my shit! i love it there!...remember when we went to that casino upstate?! soo much fun

that was it.. now, like i said, i know that i prob can't recover from this. but, i don't think i did to bad considering being outta the game for soo long. If u guys see any defects or sumthin that i should work on please point it out. Now, i know my profile says status "in a relationship with...." but, like i said its goin down hill and with my work schedule of 6 10 hour days i can't really go out much. whats my best way to get around the whole "gf" situation? i don't see this relationship lasting to much longer. but, i think this hb wanted me but her and my gf HATE each other! and i think that her being cheated on had somethin to do with this. I might try n re-initiate the another convo with her by sending her message on christams saying merry christmas. and just see what happens....although i have talked to a few girls on facebook that have all hit me with that same question. Don't u have a gf?

Uh I'm not pro or anything, but identifying mistakes would probably help my game as well.
First of all you shouldn't give her your number, she should give you hers.
Your always supposed to hold yourself in equal or higher standard.

Also this may be just me, but I like to talk/type with perfect punctuation and grammar when it comes to conversing with girls, it makes you seem more intelligent and well spoken.

Thirdly from your conversation it's just been small talk, and you were basically asking her boring typical questions. The "we should chill sometime" was a huge killer for you, it should have been, "well it was nice to come in contact with you, next time I go out you should tag along ".
Next time try and sound more well spoken, cut the basic small talk after a few minutes, move towards something more intimate (to some degree, no sexting) and cut it off at a high note, and leave her wanting more.
Good luck, just my two cents. I'm having trouble with HB 8s+, but I have no issue with 8-, stupid shyness and anxiety (sweat and mumbling).

gotcha! thanks for pointing those things out to me. i'll work those flaws for future sarging...although what do you mean by more intimate?...also, i had the same prob as you when i first started. I would sweat and mumble. I found that if i took some deep breaths and didn't think a head of myself before i entered a group or started a convo with a hb i wouldnt mumble or anything. also, i just pictured my self talking to one of my friends

When you talk with a girl you want to stand out, and have a conversation she'll remember.
Instead of boring questions like, where did you play . Ask about her actual experience of playing , she'll ramble on and just nod provide some insight and let her do most of the talking.
You'll achieve "good listener" and "good conversationalist" status

Once, in the past I F closed a girl, multiple times, simply cause she hated my girlfriend and wanted to piss her off. My relationship was on its way out anyway and I knew this would end it. It was a pretty good way to in my opinon.

Im not advocating cheating on your girlfriend, but its pretty easy to change your profile so that whilst everyone else can see you are in a relationship your potential girl has no idea! Ive been where you are and gone through the same things hope that helps!

Pathetic, I hope you get the same someday. If you knew the relationship was going to end, why didn't you just end it, you sadistic masochist?

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