So, signed up for match.

Found a girl that looked interesting and sent her a message. The message was short. I commented on her profile, gave her some background on myself and hoped to hear back from her. She messaged back something short. She seemed interested, but not overlly.

I sent her a second message maybe a little longer then I should have and havent heard back. This was monday. I know she has been on the site since b/c it tells you the last time she accessed.

Is it time for another message or do i just drop it?

Also, looking at the other grils in my area; I am not that interested. So...

DO NOT SEND HER ANOTHER MESSAGE.

I wonder how short the message you originally sent her really was? You say you commented on a good number of things there..

I think it would help if you posted your messages as well as her response on here, but from what you've said, this is what I think:

- Your original message was too long; you gave her too much info right off the bat ("gave her some background on myself") [ii] you "hoped to hear back from her". It comes off as borderline desperate when men say that, don't do it again.

- Your messages should always be shorter than hers- remember this, it's a good rule to follow. As women, we somehow always manage to turn a simple response into a novel, so if your responses are a lot longer than hers, there's something wrong.

- You admit your second message was probably too long, and I'm willing to bet my next paycheck that you're right. Next time you send a second message, keep it as short and witty as possible.

The ray of hope here though is that she may still be composing the message she wants to send back to you. I know that I, for one, will not answer a message until I find the perfect thing to say- she may still be thinking.

However and most likely, it could very well be that she's not planning on messaging you back. Learn from it and move on, and for the love of God, DO NOT SEND HER ANOTHER MESSAGE!


-Roz

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NOTE: I'm taking a break from the site, and hence will not be responding to any messages!