| Hi everyone,
I just wanted to settle this once and for for my mind. Here's the background. I met a person, who I had a natural rapport with (I wasn't trying to game her at the time) at a confrence. Anyways, we spent only 1 1/2 days together, but it clicked very well to my suprise. I made the AFC error of thinking of being a gentleman and I didn't f-close with her on the last day.
We went out, I did kino (held hands, arms etc.) went back to my place, she gave me a AS-statement about how she didn't want to do anything cause it was so soon. I kinoed more while watching a movie, did all the tests for escalation was receptive, but didn't go for it. My big bad. I know, and I deserve to get balled for it. Like I said, I wasn't in that frame unfortunatly, I didn't plan on meeting anyone there.
So before we leave, she gives me a few IOI (asks if I have a gf etc.). Asks if I want to do a LD-thing. I don't remember what my answer was, but I was sort of hesitent. Anyways, it moves to the net when I get back home. A two days of chat. But then no-show online for a few days. I figure she cut it off, and I send a email saying it was a great time, I'm glad we met etc. best of luck etc.
All is good, I meet other people but I still think of her unfortunatly. To my suprise, I get a reply email a few weeks later, acting as if nothing happened, and asking how I'm doing etc. So whatever, I have nothing to loose, so I reply. A week later she replies with flirting etc. . I reply with amongst other things, saying I should visit her. Then nothing. Some small contacts (BS stuff like commenting on a wallpost here and there).
Anyways, about a month later, she tries to contact me via AIM. I was out with some people at the time so I didn't get it right away. But since she never replied to my previous shit, I didn't want to call her and seem needy. So I post to her FB saying I was out, she should contact me whenever to catch up. No comment yet a week later
I know I have a problem now, I'm probably am one-itising this person. I'm trying to get rid of that by meeting other people, but I think, in my mind, I objectified our meeting cause it wasn't during a Pickup attempt and I've never had that occur with me before I learned some techniques.
I'm curious, what is going on? Why would she be contacting me so sporadically, so much so that I can't even attempt to build comfort or anything? I mean 1 - 4 week is huge, I just don't get why someone would even bother. This is beyond my experience, probably cause I've never done online before. Is this situation possible to salvage or should I really cut my loss and just be straight-up and say "lets just be friends?"
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