This girl wrote on her profile in okcupid something like "I need someone who could help me put the brakes on sometimes in my life", and also her profile title was something like "willing to not tell the truth about where we met"

Here's what I wrote to her:

I am not sure what methods you have tried to put the brakes on, but
the handcuffs never disappointed me the fuzzier the better lol
Also if anybody asks, just tell them we met at the handcuffs store


She read the msg but didn't reply. I cannot care less, but am wondering if it is too sexual for a first msg.

Thanks

Yeah...it's too sexual for the way you wrote the message. Try a second message just for the hell of it...to see if she'll respond. I guarantee she'll remember you at least.

haha, I knew it. How long do I wait to write the second message? and should I pretend that this first message never existed? Thanks

Personally, I would just re-frame. Ignore the first message and just send something out of the other online openers that is listed in the forum. I would wait a few days though and let her forget your first message.