Here's how it went. Sent her a message on POF using an opener that benlonghair created in this thread >> viewtopic.php?p=396504#396504

Me:I'm excited, are you? Should I give you a minute? Here's a
paper bag to breath into if you need it. I don't want to be responsible for head injuries due to passing out. I'm pretty sure the ER doesn't make for a good date. Although, I haven't tried that tack yet...

Hey! Maybe that could be our first date. We could find a cliff and jump off and, if we're lucky, we might even get a flight in a helicopter. How cool would that be?

Your friends would all be like "What did you do last night?" and you could say "Oh! I met this awesome guy and we took a ride in a helicopter then, after
extensive medical SPAM, we had an great dinner by
florescent-light in the cafeteria. I can't believe how awesome it was!" Oh, ya, you
better believe they'd be jealous.

But we can't do any of this if we don't start a conversation. So here we go: We're in a car, full tank of gas, ready to head out on a road trip. Where are we going and why?

Her:
I have to ask, is that the initial e-mail you send to all the ladies on here?!

We are going to Cedar Point in Sandusky, OH to ride some ****ing roller coasters, obviously!

Me:
Well duh were going to Cedar Point, how did I not think of that? We
should probably stop by the Rock & Roll hall of fame since it's on
the way and you love Bruce Springsteen! But those two things only
take two days - this is a road trip! Where are we going next?

And I can absolutely promise you that you are the only girl i've
sent such an interesting initial email to! I guess your profile
just sparked my interest...

Her:
Yesss to the R&R Hall of Fame! I haven't seen The Boss exhibit yet! After that I say we head off to Vegas. I've never been, and we can get stupid drunk and do something crazy like get married by an Elvis impersonator and then wake up soaked in vodka and regret.

Haha.. I jest, mostly.
Can you text me? I am going to be going away for the weekend after work today and won't have computer access but I'll have my phone!

XXX-XXX-XXXX

So, where do I go from here? She just sent that about 2 hours ago. Should I wait until tomorrow or just go for it now? And what should my first text say? That's my biggest problem - after that I can keep a convo going pretty well. I didn't give her my name yet, so should I start with "Hey ___, this is BOBfan11" ... but that sounds kinda lame.

Text her something about the wedding in Vegas, or about your impending divorce, or about how crazy the wedding sex was but how the divorce sex will be even better. Whatever it is, stick with the Vegas wedding..she obviously likes that story...AND she'll know who you are. You two can introduce later.

OK cool. But how long should I go with it before she starts to get over that whole thing?

And is it too early to bring up a sexual comment like that? or just swing for the fences?

I think just do the Vegas bit on the first text and then start to transition into real conversation. You can always throw in hints of the Vegas bit in later texts, but you've got to build some comfort here.

As far as sexual comments...depends on the girl. Based on her message I think you'd be alright "vodka and regret." But if it's not your style...don't force it.

She's into you...let her do some of the work.

Thanks for the advice. Here is what has happened so far. Feel free to critique it and offer suggestions!

(text messages)

Me: I hope you didnt leave for Vegas without me!
Her: Hahaha, i've already regrettably married someone else and I suspect that "he" may be a she...
Her: Just kidding, i'm in _(another town)_ visiting my grandfather with my Dad.
Me: Darn, I hate when that happens!
Me: Did you grow up in ______?
Her: No! Upstate NY actually, went to school in ____. But my Dad is originally from _town she mentioned she was in_ and his dad still lives here.
Me: I guess that makes you a well rounded NY'er! I love NY sports teams.
Her: Indeed! I also like NY teams! I also lived in Nashville for two years during my rockabilly phase. Where are you??
Me: I live in _____. Home of...nothing lol. Tell me about your rockabilly phase. You didn't grow a beard did you!!?
Her: Bahaha no, but I did acquire a pink guitar and an unhealthy taste for PBR
Me: How perfect you can bring your pink guitar with you to Vegas and play with Elvis!
Her: I'm not much on the guitar, i'm more skilled with the keyboard these days.
Her: she mentions PBR beer
Me: I never tried it. I guess you will have to show me some time
Do you get pics?
Her: yes sir!!
Me: (pic of little football player) I coach high school football on the side too. Look how small this kid is! A 88 pound varsity football player lol.
Her: Omg he's so tiny!
Me: he has a lot of heart though! you're quite a night owl huh?

She didn't respond after that but it was 1:30am so she probably fell asleep.

Thoughts? Suggestions?

You're doing alright, but keep it playful sometimes too. Let her do some more talking as well. She mentioned how skilled she is at keyboard; ask her about that. Sounds like she wants to go down that road.

Check out the "text message openers" post in the forums. There are some great things to start with.

OK, i checked out some text message threads. Some good stuff. The problem now is that we talked for a while today and she asked me what I did for a living and I replied that i'm a full time student and she hasn't responded yet. Is it possible that she isn't responding because she wants someone with a job? Should I:

1- Forget about it and if she responds then she responds and if she doesnt, then she doesnt

2- Or wait a while and then text her back

If I should text her back after a while, what should I say? I feel like it might be kinda awkward considering i'm texting her when she hasn't texted me yet.

Texting is great because it doesn't have to be message -> response like email does. You can say plenty of things to get her interested again. Honestly, don't worry about it too much. Being a student isn't a deal breaker; though avoid "full-time student" in the future.

If you want some advice on texting you should post in that part of the forums...but I whenever I feel like the girl is losing interest, I hold back for a day or two and then send her something random but interesting. "Did you know a blue whales tongue weighs more than an elephant! That's crazy! Glad I've got Animal Planet..." (that's one of the canned text openers - pick one that fits this girl)

Another thing you can do...is say..."I guess you forgot that we already got married in Vegas...we'll have to get a divorce now. It's too bad, we had some great times together. You can have the vacation home in Hawaii, but I'm taking the pets." - Depending on if she likes cats/dogs use pets, if she likes money..say I'm taking the money...etc - Find more about it in this forum "divorce opener".