OK, here is the background. She is a Taiwanese girl I met through some friends, then last weekend we went to a bar and I was dancing with her, chatting, trying my games (I am very new to PUA) and also grinding her on the dance floor and she was fine with that, everything just felt smooth.

I also drove her and a guy friend of hers home. That guy is a natural PUA but I think he is in the LJBF zone, but that's just me.....

Anyways, so I decided to talk to her on MSN after a busy week and here it goes.



HE
hey xxx, how's your week so far?

SHE
not bad soso
u?

HE
sounds like the assignments weren't that much a problem after all
well, at least i am happy that i kicked a dude out of my project group
(story here to DHV)

SHE
hahaha why?
he make you mad?

HE
i dont know what you are taking or if you have any teamwork you need to do, but for me, one of my courses is a project

course and there were 3 of us working as a team

this dude who didn't do much at all for the first project

the two of us were really mad but we wanted to give him a chance

so we waited but then, he still sux, didn't do anything

i sent him an email a few days ago, telling him he either need to drop the course or find another group (emoticon here)

SHE
ohoh ic ic
this kind of person will always never change

HE
he replied today said he's going to drop it, so i'm rather happy now XD

SHE
haha good
n i like the (emoticon)

HE
(the emoticon is a bunny laughing with an evil smile)
oh ya? you are EVIL!

SHE
no lah im not EVIL
it is just cool

HE
(here trying to find out something about her)
so what are you studying here at xxx

SHE
u mean what i have now? or what im gonna to get in?

HE
oh you are just taking general studies SPAM? sounds like that's the case

SHE
ya i haven't declare my major

HE
i bet you will probably take either psychology or economics
that covers most of the girls i know
(specifically, asian girls here)
(i'm not sure what i was trying to show here....)

SHE
nope
me gonna take hospitality
something to dow with management

HE
hmm, the bossy one hey, want to be in charge

SHE
haha maybe
XD

HE
hmm, let me see if that is the case, here answer a few questions
(a psychology game here i found on the forums)
link here
it-works-pua-all-the-way-in-the-field-i ... 62406.html

HE
(after getting the answers to the questions)

the fence represents the obstacles in your life. you have challenges in your life right now, but they are not

overwhealming since the fence isnt that high and you should be able to climb over it rather easily

strawberries are your pleasures or your desires. you are greedy and reserved, hoping to really enjoy life more in the

near future(since you take some home)

the owner of the field is the man of you like. An older guy (with white hair???).....

is that accurate?

SHE
not the old man part, cross that, others i think is oky
haha XD

HE
(here i was running out of ideas, so i picked on the winter olympics.....)
we were talking about the men's hockey, i want them to go out with me, instead of staying at home, and watch the final

at a bar, coz it will be very EXCITING
(trying to show that i'm the out going one, and my friends are the nerd that are staying home)

SHE
haha okay
nope... i know so many ppl r following
but not me

HE
looks like you are rather strange.. i mean out of touch with the outside world
(does this count as a neg?)
at least everybody i know more or less follow some of the games in the olympics, until today

SHE
haha
not me though

HE
ya, that's why i said until today

SHE
haha ic ic

HE
do you always just type haha ic? >.<
(trying to neg or find a proper response to her 3 words answers)

SHE
yup
or cc
haha

HE
well then, you are no fun at all

SHE
haha maybe

HE
time to kiss the pillow
(trying to end it before things become awkward)

SHE
nite nite~~



So, I thought it went well in the beginning then after the psychology game things started to die down. I ran out of ideas and her "3 words answers" were not helping me to find things to talk about.

I am not sure what I should have done or could have done. Any help is greatly appreciated. Also would like to hear opinions on how to savage this next time.

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Remember there's no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.

I'm no pro but I think you:

1. Way over negd her. you cut her down like 5 or 6 times in a row starting with the word "strange".

Then YOU Just Gave Up an Left! She didn't end the conversation (though she might have wanted to after all those subtle and not so subtle negs.

I'm not saying that you couldn't have recovered, because she had not yet backed out. Had you not gotten nervious about the fumble you might have been able to resurect the flirtaions with a really nice but mainly FUNNY 'reicebreaker' comment, but something with real substanse to it that makes her feel Confident, OK, and Comphortable once again. + Plus fun, fun and funny keeps her feeling good instead of looking elswhere for that feeling.

Also as a side note: That one part with the evil bunny- you could have said "I'm not evil... just a little naughty ", its context relevant, sexual, and would not have been over the top.