I've been looking around this forum. I can tell people try to keep it short and simple so I will do the same.

Girl in my school I see everyday. Saw her on facebook, commented her status and was messing around w. her. I messaged her and I told her i was just kidding with her and that broke into conversation. She was nicer than I expected. That went into a full conversation about our interests and hobbies. I did a great job of focusing on her but at the same time showed her that I could impress her too. She said she didnt remember me, then said "Wait, are you the one w. bright blue eyes and brown hair?". So she did remember me.. I wanted to end it first. Sent her a final message saying "I had fun talking to you. You are really cool and seem fun. We should hangout sometime, give me a call if you aren't too busy talking to your boyfriend. (I thought it would be smart to mention that to see if she had one).

She said- Haha ok. You're a funny kid "Name" and I will do. I'm glad I got to talk to you too. Goodnight!

then I sent one more. Telling her that I pick and choose who I talk to carefully, and she seemed like a very nice genuine person and that next time I see her I will talk to her in person.

She then said- . Yeah sure, go right ahead. Wow, your honestly the first hs guy that has ever said anything like that. Thats a good thing. Well except for that youre the only one, most dont even care. Oh well its hs Lol And thanks "Name". later


Notice I didn't get her number, didn't find if she had a bf. So, talk to her next time I see her online (I try to avoid that because of 1 word answers) or should I just try in person. Most of all. Should I try at all. I mean, Im standing up straight but I don't wanna fall.

Also, I sent her one more message 1 day later. I said "Hey, did you go out in the snow today, and I thought you may find this funny." I sent her a short, simple video that anyone would find funny.

No response. Been 4 days

The girl is in your school and you're using Facebook ----- DON'T!!! If you're unable to approach her in real life she's going to think an online approach is a bit weak to say the least. Ok she's answered messages but do NOT read too much into it. I would just push for the meet in real life

Online Game imho is to get to meet girls/women who do NOT come into your life through your social circle etc

Good point Bro, I know you told me not to read too far into it but do you think she was just being nice. For instance, why didn't I get her number?

Because you didn't tell her to give you her number. If I'm reading the conversation correctly, you said "give me a call sometime." That type of shit doesn't fly with women.

Get ready to laugh, but I thought it would kind of be common curtisy. So, if I see her online (I've been off school for awhile) should I say hi? I just hope she isn't one of those girls that changes her personality in person.

OK, so I saw her today. She didn't sit where she usually sits, instead I just saw her walking through the lunch room while I was in the hall. We both saw each other but were a bit far away. I acted causual and walked back to my table. I didn't say hi cause she was far away and w. her friends. So, I was bored in class and just messaged her on facebook saying whats up. I know you guys said not to do faceobok too much but I wanna see if she even responds.

Jaropennies,

Seriously I think you need a slap around the head - GAME HER IN REAL LIFE - If you cannot bring forth the courage to approach her and talk... LET HER GO!

I know man, Not a slap though. A full blown hammer to my teeth.

I cannot game w. her in real life is she won't talk to me even online is what I am trying to get at. And then you guys will tell me to let her go. Ok, and I really really will but for the time being I need some theories. Lol, was it the other girl I talked to that maybe talked to her so she wouldn't talk to me.

I really am hesistant to say anything in person w. out looking like a creep. Because if she won't respond on the web...

Start gaming her friends. Go in cocky/playful, win their respect, including the guys. Maybe even take out the hottest one (pawn) or just play light kino but publicly in front of everyone, including Miss Target. The jealous vibe will turn heads. In fact, it doesn't even need to be her friends, just someone she perceives at a the same social value level. Sexualize the kino a little bit without raping the poor pawn.

Make sure your game is solid. Up your outer game game too. Get a cool haircut and make sure your threads are tight.

Pretty Ironic. Just cut my hair, whitened my teeth and got some new clothes lol. I'll give it a shot. I am real good friends w. the girl who knows her but I don't think she will help me out. I wanna send one more message saying kinda- Fuck it. Sorry for coming off too strong (which I didnt) but Im just gonna ignore it and see what happens. If I walk by her, I dunno what to do. Don't wanna look stalkerish

You said this:

"and that next time I see her I will talk to her in person"

And then YOU DIDN'T DO IT.

Every day that passed, and every message you sent her online, lowered your value.

You had a chance and you blew it. You didn't get rejected because you never even approached her to talk to begin with. That's what she was waiting for. She wasn't going to give you the time if day if you couldn't gather the balls to approach and say "hi" to her face.

You're not necessarily out for good -- younger girls can sometimes be a little more forgiving of this sort of thing -- but you have to act FAST if you want in. Don't wait for a great opportunity or for her to approach you. Walk up to her and START TALKING. If she's talking to friends, INTERRUPT THEM. There's a wealth of material on this site you can use for help doing that -- see the non-online sections.

And whatever you do, don't give her any excuses for why you didn't talk to her before now. If she brings it up herself, wave it off nonchalantly with something vague like it's no big deal -- you've been busy, lots on your mind, something like that.

DON'T DO THIS. Never apologize to a girl for wanting to go out with her. If you do that, you effectively rob her of any chance of EVER being a sexual object to her, because it's the ultimate display in weakness. She hasn't even had a chance to reject you yet, so if you reject yourself she'll assume your either a scared kid, a homo, both, or socially retarded.

At least if she rejects you, you can neg her over it and try to get back to neutral so you both can coexist naturally without all that freaky awkwardness. Just act cool. Show a mild disinterest. She might be liking the attention she's getting from you right now. Take it away and see if she comes back for more. If she does, you know you've hooked her. If she doesn't, you haven't demonstrated high enough value. The good thing is that you have tons of opportunity to DHV - you see this chick every day! You know her schedule, her friends, you may know intimate details about her family and private life just by being in the same school.

Remember, it's NO BIG DEAL. Nothing is EVER a big deal. Right now you're making it a HUGE deal and that's what's screwing with your game.

Jaropennies - sit down and think about this. It is MORE creepy to do stuff online than FACE to FACE when you already know the girl. I'm in agreement with net.split it WILL take some balls to talk to her but you need to do it - for yourself.

Ok, I finally see what I should do now thanks to you guys. Now, do you actually think she took it that serious? If I see her in person I will talk to her. Because if you think about it. She stopped responding Before we even went back to school. So there is no possible way I could have seen her. I think I was just over thinking it and she was trying to be nice. Not to be negative, but realistic.