| The Rules of MySpace
It’s a daring title featuring the structure of my MySpace conversation. I Would like some debate to proceed after this because I know it isn’t perfect (It doesn’t work this smoothly for all users, but I would say 80% of the time, this will lead to a meeting) but maybe there’s a possibility of making it POIFECT. Yes you read that right, the purpose of this isn’t to unleash an opener that receives a response 100% of the time, but rather to create a persona she wants to talk to each chance she gets.
The Laws of MySpace Messages:
Thou shall use Word Spell check on each message if thou cannot spell
Thou shall limit the use of emoticons to 1 per message (preferably zero)
Thou shall respond to the first message received within 24 hours upon receiving
Thou shall not ‘LOL’
Thou shall not flaunt thy infinite vocabulary
Thou shall have character and not just lifeless words
Thou shall not compliment (you will eventually, just not in the first three messages)
We should all agree that these are the fundamental laws to obey when writing to your target for the first times (Thought of one yourself? Respond with it and we’ll see if it’s congruent with the system).
The MySpace Structure – Messages 1-3:
1. The first message should be custom tailored for your girl/target. Nerdy/corny/cheesy will strike the attention of the majority of the people you write to. With your imagination locked and loaded you can create a humorous observation about her (via reading her profile and looking at her pictures [or if private, based solely on her name, age and picture]) With this you will follow by questioning your cheesy observational opener.
Message 1 = Humorous Observation + Questioning of observation
Your role model for the first message you ask? Style? Mystery? Gambler? No…Jerry Seinfeld! Remember how bad all his jokes were, yet you couldn’t help but laugh or snigger and talk about them to your friends…that’s the basic concept with your online opener.
A familiar snippet of a response I receive is “That was cheesy, but I laughed…”
2. Congratulations, if she responded, you’re in! She will most likely have responded to your question and asked her a question of her own (don’t worry if she didn’t ask a question). Make sure NOT to respond within minutes of receiving the message. In your first message you have made an observation and in HER first message to you, she’s confirmed what you’ve said is true or not. Respond to what she’s said whilst being humorous (keep in mind, cocky will not always work so try to avoid it). But that isn’t advise, that’s just a given, the major aspect of your second message is building anticipation and suspense.
Message 2 = Response to her words/lively banter + Building Anticipation
So how does one build anticipation you ask? I’m not telling!
Not really, I will tell, that was just a simple example. If I was to have ended this step on that note I’m sure I would have had questions from many of you asking for a more in depth explanation. I left you wanting to know more and this is exactly what the second messages prime goal is…leave them wanting more.
Ex. Someone asks what you do for a living. “ I would love to tell you, but the answer is just too great…most people pop with excitement!. I’m not supposed to tell many people due to a signed contract. But then, I don’t always obey the rules, as long as I can trust the person. Can I trust you?”
3. So you will have received a message along the lines of “tell me tell me,” and tell you shall. Don’t drag it out or it will become boring for her (not like in real life game). Since most of us really don’t have jobs that are as exciting as you made it seem, your answer will let her down somewhat. I usually mention here that anything can be exciting if done/told by the right person. Here I hint that I’m exciting and then abruptly change the direction of the conversation to forget about the anticipation I put her through. Here you will qualify her in whichever way you choose (but be playful and humorous remember, not cocky).
Message 3 = End Anticipation + Covertly hint that you are exciting + Qualify
Intermission: Right now, as you’re sat there reading this system, you are thinking about how this may seem a little complex, but fear not…If you haven’t realized, you have gotten her into the habit of responding to you. She’s probably looking forward to your messages and putting thought and effort into everything she says. So what happens next? Read on…
Messages 4-7 and beyond: The Next Level
4. She will have responded to your qualification and will probably ask you a question herself or if not, the same question you asked. This is a good sign. You respond and then make the observation that you are not friends yet.
Message 4 = Respond to her statement or question + Make her aware of not being friends
A decent way to become friends is to question why you aren’t friends. “I can’t believe you haven’t added me…what’s up with that” being the worst example I can give, but it’s an example nevertheless (I can’t give away all my lines now).
5. You are now friends. Continue to qualify each other in whatever way suits you best. Ask questions of genuine curiosity too. Now it’s best to use a DHV routine. Online, a DHV can just consist of a Cosmo quiz, I kid you not. It’s a component that’s important, but not as important as this: Tell her she’s cute! Be suave about it and slip it in covertly. Ex. If she’s told you she runs the marathon, you would say “Ohh, I didn’t know beautiful people ran in those. I thought it was just the monster muscle ladies that did.” You get what I mean, it’s best to subtly tell her and then move on with the conversation.
Message 5 = DHV routine + Compliment
6. For the most part, this is the critical step. Covertly asking for a way to hear her voice. Whether it’s on MSN, SPAM, or getting her phone number. You tease her: You add another compliment BUT you question how she sounds. If she looks somewhat Spanish, you would for example, add a exaggerated Spanish twist to your words. Ex. “ I bet you talk like this foxy Spanish lady: *in high croaky voice* Ohhhhwww, si si, youz ah vewy pwettie boy!” Please, don’t use that, it was just an example from the top of my head. The main purpose of this message is to make her want to prove to you that her voice isn’t that bad. Always exaggerate and never make her self-conscious (therefore, don’t just say, you probably have a whiney voice, because what if she does? You’ve just blown all that work and effort in a sentence…the key is exaggeration).
Message 6 = Compliment + Playful curiosity to how her voice sounds
7. Seven is my lucky number, and this is typically where MySpace conversation diminishes. That’s because you’ll be talking to each other via the telephone or SPAM, etc. She’ll comment and defend that her voice isn’t that bad, and simply, in your own words, you just ask her to prove it! This is where you ask for a way to hear her voice. Ask her whether she prefers the phone or SPAM (or you can even settle for instant messenger’s if it has a mic).
Message 7 = Talk to her on the phone (or SPAM, etc)
Afterword: Of course, this is just my natural structure broken down in steps so you guys can use it. It’s not perfect, but I assure you, If you get past step 3, you are IN and the other steps will work. But what if she only gives me her instant messenger you ask? It’s a good sign, don’t worry. She wants to talk to you and has added you to her ‘friend directory.’ Limit your conversation to less than 15-20 minutes a day, because as the saying goes, “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” A critical role in instant messenger to make the person feel closer is what I call ONLINE RAPPORT. You want to use a few of the same words that she uses. If she says lol, you say lol. If she explains things as ‘awesome’ you explain things as ‘awesome.’ Remember, instant messenger is fast and therefore you don’t have time to spell check and what have you. But you know what, that doesn’t matter anymore. Just keep the conversation intriguing and you’ll eventually meet her. Like I said, this works roughly with 8 out of 10 people (and 90% of them once past step 3) and a large portion of my social life developed from this technique which I have neatened for you.
Please, Feedback and what have you is more than welcome and I’d love to hear about your stories when using this. Practice makes perfect.
Zooky
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