so i kinda burned the bridge on this one girl i been talkin to for a while when i started becoming pushy *been talkin to her for a while* and she goes on about this guy she likes gettin locked up, crying and then stopped pickin up her phone for a while. and i sent some messages to her saying that id delete her if i couldnt talk to her, and her response was pretty much "fine, im busy with work, taking care of my daughter and i didnt want to hook up anyways".. *prior to this, she was all "oh i cant wait to see you, i got something for you etc, we should take a pic, " blah blah.

So figure Ill give her a lil time to cool off, and thinking about shooting her a message to meet up for coffee. I know she falls for thug image. and i talked to her long enough to know her weaknesses.

Im confident that in person, i can gain her interest and trust.. I just need to somehow get to that position to get her to meet with me as "friends" again instead of how i became the pushy AFC thing.

*background, she messaged me on myspace 2 years ago because she remembered me from another profile website a few years back , asked for my number, and we talked, but i never took it serious, she would call me every now and then... til this last month she always calls me. THis is when i started feelin attracted to her. There was some IOIs she was giving me like "I cant wait to chill with you this weekend, lets take some pictures, I got a gift for you" blah blah. We didnt meet up because she got her daughter back. The following week she hits me with the "this guy i like is getting arrested" stuff and shes crying, i tell her ill give you some time etc. I would call her a few days later, she wouldnt pick up, ok fine. Id call a few days later, wouldnt pick up. Then id send a message "hey you ok? hope everything is cool." No response, then id see her update her facebook etc, til one day i jus got emo and wrote "imma delete you if i cant talk to you, you dont let me know whats up". then she wrote back that message and we deleted each other. Then i wrote back "hey i didnt mean it, that was wrong of me to say that". Past week her grandmother died *she posted it on her myspace*, so i just send a simple message "Sorry to hear that, my condolences to you and your family. I know you probably hate my guts right now."

I know i should have meet up with her long time ago, i wouldnt be in this position as someone else stepped in before me and i blew it by showing AFC. But this dude got locked up for 6 years right, so fuck him! didnt play his game right as far as im concerned , she shouldnt be with this garbage. She changed her facebook to engaged, but i think she could have changed that in defense or she clung herself to this guy and to get others off her.


I figure this last message will be my last shot. Shes always busy during day *nurse and still goin to school*, so a night thing will have to do. Im thinking to send her a message like
"Hey, if your free on tuesday or wednesday evening, I want to go to a cafe or get some boba drinks, met me there".

Sadly im not the one paying my cell phone, so i cant have texting, but she reads the messages i send thru myspace, figure if i give it a week then shoot it over, it might be spontaneous that she might decide to forget all that BS and remember the good conversations /feelings we had prior and go for it.

She'll forget about him.

I was locked up for 1.5 years and all the new fish never believed me when I tried to prepared them. It's the same story and happens EVERY TIME.

I say "she will worry about you, visit you every day for the next couple weeks and be very supportive. Then the visits will get less frequent. finally ,after about a month, maybe two if you're lucky, she'll meet someone else and forget all about your ass. Hard knoks bro, but reality."

Just don't AFC since she's into the thug type. Wait it out on the DL a bit but still maintain communication... or she'll forget about YOU too.

I hear that..

since i dont think shes on good terms with me right now, but shes probably real emotional being her grandmother just died and all,.. how can I approach that? my only options of contact are calling her *if she even picks up* could leave a voicemail, or just drop a myspace message.

If i write her a message , how should i word it so Im not coming off like i want to get at her and its just a innocent little meet up?
"Hey NAME, If your free tuesday or wednesday night, Ill be shooting over for some coffee or boba. Let me know.

- my name"

I was thinking to send the message sunday night /monday.. and try b4 thanksgiving since thanksgiving is usually family time for people. Or should i try to wait a lil longer? I always have this idea that the longer you wait on a girl, someone else will step in.

i sent the message
"
Hey if your free Tuesday night or so, Let's hit up a coffee joint , I could come up for a lil bit.
~my name"

she read, didnt reply.. i think she goes on myspace on her phone but still. Guess i need to just suck it up and move on. Her lose right