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I started talking to a hb on facebook. I just told her i saw her pic and that i loved her hair. she thanked me for the compliment. I did that to 10 girls and 2 responded. This one was very open and i did the routing in strauss's the game, the one he did with paris hilton verbatim. she loved it big time. then after about 25 or 30 emails, I told her that she wasn't my type that i like girls with different looks than what she had. but we can still be friends. what does she say? that's ok, i wasn't thinking of u except as a friend and you will love my cousin. what do u guys think? what did i do wrong?
Fireman3210 Honestly?!? Well, let's start at the beginning, and I'll try to help out.
You opened with a generic compliment about her hair. Well that is nice but a lot of guys do this. It's easy for girls to shrug this type of approach off. It's not original and she's probably seen that type of advance many times before. Plus it doesn't grab her attention or really encourage more conversation. If you used this in person you'd get a typical, "Thank you." and then you'd be ignored most likely. Hence, why about 8 / 10 didn't respond.
Might want to check out Whoopies Facebook Poke Opener for ideas on how to open better on Facebook. There is a thread on this in the Online Sarging section of the forum.
25 or 30 emails?!? Wow, that is a lot. It sounds like you two talked a lot which is not necessarily a bad thing. The problem comes when you don't escalate things along. After a few messages you should be looking to talk to her on IM or on the phone. From there to get a date with her in person. You are constantly escalating so that you can get her in person. Our only goal with online game is to get a date, PERIOD. Then from there we have a new game to run.
I don't know what your messages consisted of but once she starts getting more comfortable with you is when you should move for a better method of contact! In this case I'm going to guess that after about 5-10 emails you should have been able to have her #. Then from there its a matter of time to setup a date.
That many messages also tells me you didn't do much to generate attraction. You talked to her and used Neil Strauss's routine, good job. But that doesn't make people attracted to you. You have to embed your conversations with DHV spikes or Attraction switches, use teasing, maybe even negs to help.
Anyways, when you talked that long. And you said "I told her that she wasn't my type that i like girls with different looks than what she had. but we can still be friends. what does she say?" --- I think you meant this as a FALSE DISQUALIFIER? This is something you can do to generate attraction but it goes early on in the process! When we did this late in the process she took you literally for your word, and placed you as a friend.
You could have said this early on, "You and I would never get along in a relationship. You wouldn't take my stuff, I wouldn't take yours.....what's the fun in that?"
Anyways, you did a great job making a friend, and making her comfortable with you! That is half the battle. Now you just need to turn up the attraction in your messages by teasing, False Disqualifiers, and using DHV material. From there escalate to get a date!
Hope all this helps get you a clearer picture of what to do in order to get the girl!
Jon
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