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Ok, so I emailed this girl, can't remember what the first email said, but I got a response. Think I asked her if she had met anyone from the site and if she had any horror stories, and also what the best date she had been on?

This was all before discovering the wealth of knowledge here in the community.

She emailed back to say blah, blah, blah, her best date was comdey gig, drinks and fast food. She asked if i had dated anyone from the site and if i had any horror stories

I emailed her back saying that i hadn't dated anyone from the site (not sure if i told her bcos i only recently returned to using the site)
I also told her I went to a charity speed dating event (reiterated the fact that it was for charity).

I finished the email with "so is that where you're going to bring me.....?


I got a response from her today saying, "there is never any excuse for speed dating Smile.

Is that you asking me out?"

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How I was thinking of playing it:

"Oh, you must one of those generous people who think charity begins at home Smile. I suppose you're right though, those poor romanian orphans should learn to adapt to their situation and get busy learning how to read themselves.

asking you out? I haven't even awarded you enough points yet to even give you my number yet. I'm not that easy!"

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Suggestions very much welcome!

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"Is that you asking me out?"
could be her want you to date close or maybe a test...
hard to say...

i was thinking it could be her wanting me to date close.

What I might say, is "ask you out? I haven't even decided if I'm going to give you my number yet"

then maybe something like, "are you always this eager? you won't be asking me to move in after 3 dates will you?"

perhaps then try and date close? "I suppose we could meet up, if your that keen "


or maybe:

"i was thinking about it, but realised I hadn't taken your number yet

this goes back to something she said in her email about her favourite date. she said a few guys asked her out before but she said she wanted to get to know someone first, by email and that she has never given out her number.

all opinions welcome guys - this will be my first attemtped close

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I am not an expert but I think you should C&F and not close yet...
say like you said... "are you always this eager? you won't be asking me to move in after 3 dates will you?" that's my opinion

She wants you to Date close but I'd go with this option and then close her in the next response on your terms.

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Out of the ideas you threw around in your second post, I would personally say something close to this. It's kind of light hearted and not confirming or denying her question, keeping her in anticipation.

hey Guys, thanks for the advice.

I didn't look to date close her, bcos I thought it was too soon, going on what she said in her earlier emails, plus I wanted to find out a few things about her, so that when I do meet up with her, I've got some extra info.

went with: asking you out? I haven't even decided if I'm going to give you my number yet. Plus there's so much I don't know about you.

threw in a few random questions and negged her a bit.


Her reply was pretty indignant (playfully so I would imagine, although tone obviously doesn't come across in email)


mailed her back saying: it was a good job I didn't ask you out then, you probably would have just toyed with my emotions like all those other guys.
there were a few more lines.


she came back with, i never toy yada yada.
"now its my time for some questions - repeated the questions i asked her.



Will reply with, "oh very original" and take it from there.



I'm sure you guys have your own targets to play and don't need to be listenting to me prattle on, but I am actually as excited as a 10yr old with a brand new bike, after discovering this community. Its like being let in on a massive secret, that you knew nothing about. I want to tell everyone, but I don't at the same time.

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