I met this girl at a house party and we really hit it off until the host and some other loser guys butted in. We couldn't isolate although we both wanted to just because it would be a bit awkward.

Anyway I gave her and 2 other guys a ride to the metro station and as she was getting out of the car I went to shake her hand and with slick fashion slipped her my business card in her hand.

3 days pass by and no contact from her.

So I send her a msg on meetup.com where she has a profile and say this.

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Hey I just wanted to drop a quick fyi. I gave you my card so you could add my email on facebook lol. I hope you didn't get the wrong idea! I always try and connect with people that I find intellectually stimulating as it's so rare to find nowadays.

Add me

xxx@xxxxxx.com

Take care!
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I have a reputation at the meetup group of being a player and knew that her friends would probably bad mouth me to her at the beach the next morning. So I figured I'd try the "non-sexual" approach to test her reaction.

Here is her response...

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Hey John,

Always such a pleasure to hear that one is unattractive. Oh
well.

I will add you as a friend on FB, with pleasure. Just give me a
little more time, because I am overwhelmed with work and have
hardly had time to check my emails these last few days.

Take care,

N.

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I have a long distance GF that I would gladly break up with for this girl as it's not going smooth at all and there is blatantly no future with her.

I'm thinking about telling her that my email would have looked a lot different if I didn't have a gf right now and that I would have already asked her out for a drink.

I'm probably going to see her again on Friday.

What do you guys recommend I do?

Well for a start you should ditch the long distance relationship. Its harsh to keep her hanging on if you think its not going anywhere, do yourself a favour and do her a favour. You have all the skills to keep on top of things anyway.

Your target is just shit testing you, you didn't say anything of the sort and keeping away from sexualised emails is a good idea, escalation is for when you can do something about it! Whether you have a gf or not.
As for the shit test you can either respond or you can just ignore it and work through it, the choice is your... if it goes wrong I dont want the blame.
Choice 1. responde
a neg would be good, but yet reassuring her. ie. Well someone so attractive, as yourself must be used to guys trying to hit on them so i wanted to put your mind at rest.
Although she doesnt sound like she would reponde well to a sarcastic neg right now.
Maybe try something like, ouch now i feel like i have to take you for a coffee to make up for this missunderstanding.
you know what thats the last one im going to write, cos they suck and theres a clear winner here (in my opinion) and thats number two...

Choice 2. is just chat to her, or ask her out. Glaze over what she said, if she brings it up again respond accordingly^