I just added this hot HB9 on facebook that i met through a friend at the bar and we talk every time i see her and i can tell she has interest. i havent seen her in like two weeks or so but i thought id find her on facebook and add her. anyways the problem is she has a boyfriend. this boyfriend of hers acts like a bodyguard all over her at the bars and every time someone tries to talk to her he comes up and grabs her and says something to her, but when i talk to her she just ignores him and shrugs him off and keeps talking to me. usually i just talk to her a few more minutes and say i have to go(im not scared of the boyfriend, i just dont like breaking up relationships. karma can be a bitch!!lol.) anyways i dropped her a line on her facebook wall about her pic, which was pretty funny. she hasnt replied because i just did it about 5 minutes ago, but im not trying to message back and forth a bunch just cause i bet her boyfriend spies over her profile lol. how should i go about this? also, i think she will end up dumping this dude sometime so i wanna keep my bid in there.

Why haven't you just asked for her digits one of the times you've seen her in person?

Instead you've gone through the trouble to find her on the computer.. and posting on her wall which everyone in her network can see... while its not the biggest mistake, some girls that have boyfriends like to keep some options open-- but prefer to do so discretely (because many relationship type girls would prefer to stay with some jerk they are unhappy with, rather than being alone for an indefinite amount of time). I respect your comment about not liking to break up relationships, but what you're saying and your actions don't really seem congruent to me... The idea of wanting to keep her around is a nice thought but at some point you have to show interest.. otherwise the longer you interact with her without doing so, the harder it gets to change things later on down the road. It would be more likely that you come to find out she has broken up with the douche bag, but is already talking to someone new.

I would like to see you stop with the internet communication, as you are actually taking steps backward rather than stacking forward with your interactions. Stop making excuses for what you want. Next time some guy comes up feeling insecure about you talking to his girl, just bust on her a little bit and say something like "Was that really your boyfriend?" lol you can usually get a pretty good gauge on how she feels about their relationship that way... Oh and if you decide to grow some balls and ask for her number next time you see her, there is a way you can kind of protect yourself because if she tells you she can't because of her boyfriend, you can just say something like "OH you thought I was hitting on you?? You're cute. I just geniunely enjoy your company and I hate to leave it up to fate because I never know when we're going to bump into each other again." That way you can kinda keep things from getting too uncomfortable and weird.

Hope I have been able to give you some insight.

I definitely not scared to get any girls number. i found it better to give a girl my number instead and if she is interested she will call me. i guess next time i see her and talk with her ill give her my number and tell her to call me sometime. if she doesnt call me then ill know she is not interested or she doesnt want to be talking to other people like that while she is in a relationship.