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Girl "liked" me on OKC last weekend
Hit the gym, then the bars.
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I messaged her and we've been chatting ever since. Sometimes it takes her hours between replies
The fact you're counting the hours between her replies means you're thirsty as hell. You solve that by getting fit, and going to bars/the market/clubs/etc.
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We texted a little more for a couple days after that, then I dropped off for a couple days because I was busy. Started the conversation up again Friday and got intermittent texting (she doesn't like texting on phone I guess, so only get longer discussions when she can get on pc.) While we were talking she broke in asking how I was doing on the site, and claimed the only guy she'd met had insisted on it despite her saying she wouldn't date him because he had kids. After they met he harassed her a little over the phone so now I guess she's extra cautions...
She sounds boring.
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Today we had a bit longer discussion, the weird thing was she complained about a couple messages she got. One from a guy that was a little rude, and another from a woman propositioning her for a threesome... which led to finding out she's curious about having a threesome and some other sex discussion ending with basically "if we get to the point you can fuck me" so I'm taking that as a good sign.
So question is, how do I get her to be comfortable meeting?
Why are you talking about the potential of meeting, and all this bullshit, when you can just set up a meet?
"Hey Sarah, I'm celebrating good news at Bar XXX, tomorrow at 9. You're welcome to join."
Maybe she's just waiting for you to act like a man and lead? Control the frame.
She wants to make sure you aren't clingy, so indifference works to your advantage here. Start responding to her messages a day or two later.
If she says no, say "cool, I'm good either way" and don't contact her until she contacts you. And wait a day or two to message her back unless she asks to meet you.
Repeat one more time, and if she says no again, never contact her again and ignore all her messages unless she asks to meet.