i closed got her email, here is the msn conv, evaluate tell me where i went wrong. long but if you have been following the other post you'll know why

Me: hi

Her Hi so you have the next questioon, but I warn you
I am speakin to some1 else online so if I take a lil bit to
answer dnt get impatient

ME: well i believe you have the next
question....you must find it a lil hard to count my last
question was do you have msn

Her: lol

Her: Ok so management and what? What made you get into
That

ME: management? im not talking to you if your not
listening properly

Her: Marketing and sociology sorry

ME: you checked facebook didnt you

Her: Yes

Her: i am payin attention now come on

ME: your a lil demanding...you always like
this?well at least you didnt try and cover up. and to
answer your question, i wont to go into advertising and
sociology just gives me another option.

HER When I want to be, so why did you add me in the
end????

ME: quick look at your profile and thought you
needed some friends

ME: why did you accept me

Her: I felt sorry for you havin to beg to add someone.

Her: Are you goin out this weekend?

ME: beg...love, i wasnt beggin, you aint that
special

im far too busy right now to go out, but once exams are
done i will be.

Her: When are your exams?
ME: 21st of april, 6th 7th and 14th of may...by
the way it was my question but i'll let you off this once

Her: Hurry up and ask then?

HER: Ok you are jus makin me wait delibratly now arent
you?

ME: you need to chill..this shit aint for free
Babygirl

HER: What is that suppoed to mean?

ME: actually I need an unbiased female
perspective on something... Say, this guy is dating this
girl, and she goes out with her friends, has a few drinks
and ends up kissing a random guy at the bar..... Would you
consider this cheating?

HER: Yes it is alcohol is a poor excuse in most
Circumstances

HER: Trust me i know first hand

ME: you go out and kiss random guys??

Now take the same scenario, but this time the girl is
kissing another girl, and lets say she does this almost
every time she goes out..... would you consider that
cheating?

Her: Yes and I think she is bi or attention seeking or
a lesbian waiting to come out completey. An no I do not
kiss random guys.

Me: you think? I ask is because this is a
situation my friend is in this situation.

He has been dating this girl for about 6 months and he
likes her, and then she tells him that she's kissing girls
all the time. He's not really sure how he feels about it.
On one hand, he thinks its hot lol, but on the other, he
fears that he can't satisfy her and that they will never
get more serious. In my opinion, I think she should have
been more upfront with him from the beginning. I'm big on
honesty. If you establish the relationship as casual then
its fine, but don't try to hide it..if you get what i mean?

HER: I get ya. there is nothin they can do now but
talk to one another

Me: i guess so oh wel, my view is clear as i
explained to him

HER: So what date exactly are djin

Me: you what? is that (area she is from) slang?:P

HER: I meant to say DJ' ing

Me: y do you want to come?

HER: Where is it?

Me: *******

Me: lol

HER: Then no I dont want to come

HER: Way to far away are you up there at the mo/

HER: meant to put ?

Me: no im back home in the best city in the
world...i guess u figured im at uni in ********

HER: Yeh I read your profile

HER: 2nd time i told you

Me: exactly why i said it. about your job...what
is it you do? what does it involve?

HER:: Ok well Im a support worker for speacial needs
adults so I help them in a unit with speacialised flats for
them, so I help them make their dnerr do their personal
care, when i am fully trained i will also be allowed to go
out with them to the gym for walks and to cinema

Me: so if i did a lil cold reading, would i be
right in sayin your a caring person?

HER: I guess so, but dont be gettin the wrong idea im
not soft or anythin lol

Me:: damn and there was me thinking you;ll be a
walk over

HER:: Walk over me to do what? Hum

*I realise this is an ioi but I had to try the next line out*

Me: get married, get divorced, take all your
money even tho i dnt really want it...find another girl
4yrs younger than you and take the kids

HER: Well good luck with the money side and the kids
cus i definatly am not havin any

Me:: you aint having any money either...

HER: I wont need it. Lol

Me:: no.....your not going to become one of them
people who want marry a footballer/someone rich serious
lack of cool point for that and thoes who live off the
earth

HER: Nah as nice lookin as some of the footballers are
some of them jus lokk slimy you know a bit too much up them
selves

HER: lol

Then she pissed off offline without a good bye, whats everyone think

she emailed me this morning

Sorry about last night my internet crashed. Hope you have a nice weekend. xx

you dhv'd well. shes definitley interested. but when she said "now you are making me wait deliberately arent you?" you did a good job making yourself not so easily available. but you shouldve said something like, "well i suppose i might have some time off in between". becuz she was a bout to ask you out. and thats a long time to wait. she wanted to meet up with you whereever youre dj'ing.

no worries tho, she sounds like she'll ask again for sure. but make sure you reward her ioi's. give her an oppurtunity to meet you now.

thanks rain...just to explain some bits, where she said im making her wait was because she took ages to reply before, we were also playing the question game and she took my turn to ask a question, hence her "your taking long" and my reply of i have loads of people wanting to talk to me.

i also got the impression that she wanted to meet up with me when i was d.j'ing, problem is i don't d.j. in my home town just at uni as im on uni radio....

i have a hard time of showing ioi's over the internet so i need to work on that big time, in publc i let kino do it for me lol. any ideas? and also how can i get a meet lol

ooo ic now. well after that message the next day im sure she;ll get a hold of you. but id let her contact you first. it may take a few days, as a shit test. but keep doing push-pull stuff, compliance tests etc.. tease her, id go easy on the negs now becuz it seems like youve almost won her over already. id only do negs that are obviously jokes, but they need to show confidence. if she teases you back do a compliance test.

if she complies, reward her with an ioi. example:
if next time she asks about meeting you
"well i might have some free days in between now and then (your exams). if you promise not to be a drag i guess you can tag along."
"thats only if you behave though"
if she complies, reward her with something flirty
if she sounds flaky or resists, teases you back... IOD
"man youre trouble.. i shouldnt be talking to you"
"you're terrible, you need a guy you can walk all over"
then if she reasons with you, false disqualify. THEN if she qualifies/complies, reward her with an IOI and set up that date.


if you read Mystery method Venusian Arts Handbook it is full of ideas and example of how to do this. i cant explain exactly what to do cuz after a certain ammount of time it just comes naturally and youll know what to say. i dont have it all committed to memory.

well she aint clicking on me lol. i've got the book...wont have time to read it for a good month or so so lost of summer pua study lol.