I usually don't have any problem closing on pof or okc.
I personally don't like using tinder.. but I wanted to give it a try.
I have talked to a few and gotten numbers. Aged around (20-25)

But I wanted to aim for older girls around 30ish
I am 25.. so I obviously don't get any matches around that age.
So what I need help with is this girl that I started talking to.. she's 31 a deff hb9
I used some canned material.. as I wasn't sure how I should approach her.
it seems that she wants me to qualify and is obviously interested or she would have unmatched me by now.
here is the lame convo im having with her.
Any suggestions on how I can turn this lame convo into something interesting and fun??


Me: Oh congratulations! :p

Her: U mean congradulations on taking the bait? Yeah, your profile message was so bizzare that I couldn't resist.

Me: Lol well I wanted to congratulate you on taking my tinder virginity

Plus you just look quite feisty.. your eyes certsinly give away the fact you might be the spunky, sassy type. lol Im actually wondering what it would be like to get into your bad books if we ever dated... do you bite ?

Her: Well, I think that if you're having fantasies about dating me, the more relevant topic is "how to get into my good books"

How did u win over your last girlfriend?

Me: sure.. only you can answer that for me.

To be honest.. Just being myself usually works fine for me.

But it does beg the question as to why you aren't in a monogamous relationship? Lol are you trouble or something? :p

Her: What kind of question is that?

It sounds like a compliment and an insult rolled into one

It' sounds like you're saying "there's something wrong with me, or else I'd already be with someone"

Maybe you'd like to re-phrase that?



So that's the convo.
Suggestions please.

And there's where you lost her, obviously.

You get that Tinder is primarily for hookups, right? You're throwing out there (in so many words) that you're looking for a monogamous relationship right off the bat.

It's a little different than POF or OKC.

While it's fine to tell the chick what you're looking for (maybe not that quickly) - I normally just assume anyone on Tinder is looking for a hookup...

Well as I said.. she still hasn't unmatched me,

any suggestions on how I can respond to her message ?

I've got hundreds of matches that I either struck out with or haven't spoken to - and they haven't unmatched me...

You won't get unmatched unless you're offensive, a lot of times.

Never say this to a woman; they have pride. Also re: asking a girl if she has a b/f, let's say she was already planning to break up with him that day; she would have to tell you 'yes i have a bf' and then your chances with her are lessened.

Stop with all the qualification talk and talk to the girls in a normal manner. I used to do that shit too and it leads no where.

I know what you're saying.
I was just tripping out because I have never really talked to older chicks online before,
But I guess it doesn't matter the age.. they need to be approached the same as well.
thanks for the feedback guys.

Don't worry about it brother. You totally got this; with the next girls u will knock it out of the park