| I've been online dating for a couple of years and I see that many people have a lot misconceptions about Online Dating.
Here are some of my personal advices for those who want to engage in online dating:
1) Pay the damn FEE!: free dating sites attract too much guys (aka your rivals) and the girls are often not that serious about online dating, they are often bored or just want to make new friends. Some just come to boost their egos since they are the "prize"..
2) Upload a picture: No picture on your profile means 10 times less response. Women automatically distrust people with no picture.
You have 5 catégories of people that don't put a picture.
I'll give a name to the representatives of each category.
- Johnny thinks he is unattractive
- Arnold fears that any of his acquaintances could recognise them
- Bryan has no picture good enough to post
- Peter is a high school teacher
- D-Juan cheats on his girl and doesn't want to be caught on a dating website
So.. Johnny, tries to hide his appearance from a girl he would like to meet. Johnny shows a huge lack of confidence by doing so. Another thing, what would be the point of hiding your appearance if you'll meet in person later on?
As for Arnold, it's his choice, i just wonder if he's not a little too paranoïd.... would it be such a deal that his acquaintances know that he's on a dating site? We're in 2014, Online Dating is widely accepted nowadays. And even then, are you going to let your life be dictated by these acquaintances Arnold?!
Bryan is just Lazy, he should find a camera, take pictures until he has made a decent or even a good one.
Peter does what he has to do
D-Juan has chosen a double life (or even more than double life). he isn't paranoïd, he's cautious and he should be. He plays dangerous games and that's what he loves above all.
3) Online dating takes practice...: If you are just getting started, chances are you'll get a huge amount of rejection early on, maybe a 100% rejection. Training makes perfect, if you are persistent and hang on you'll eventually progress step by step, this can take a lot of time. Don't always look for external advice on websites. First try things out by yourself before asking help, your own ideas have to be taken into consideration.
4) It's a number's game:Most beginners spend way too much time reading, analysing the profile of a girl and try to find the best opener possible. This time spent can better be used to contact other girls. Not all women expect you to talk about her special interest mentioned on their profile. Some may or may not agree with me but I find this tactic to also be the best for those who are just looking for a girlfriend and don't aspire to be a seducer.
5) Origins do matter: I've seen a lot of posts & articles suggesting you should 'neg' as an opener... Now that may or may not work in the United States but believe me, where I live, that kind of opener is seen as rude and stupid. Basically, they'll assume you are a total idiot. Keep in mind that there can be huge differences from one country or region to another.
6) Try different openers: Try different types of openers and stick to the ones that work out for you, experiment with your openers even if some of them will be rejected by some girls.
The fear of rejection is a deeply rooted human characteristic: nobody likes to be rejected, but rejection on the internet should be a lot easier to deal with than street game rejection for obvious reasons to me. Think about it, she doesn't know you at all, she can't even hear you, speak to you, see you other than your picture, smell your perfume..
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