Getting the phone number is the easy part. Now that you have the phone number, the goal is to get her out on a date. In this long and detailed post, I will demonstrate to you how texting can be a game changer in the courtship process.

Whether you approached her in the broad daylight of Orchard Road or that you met her in a club like Zouk, the phone number serves as a bridge. The entire goal of the phone number is to get her out on a date which you can see her again.

The first interaction you have with her is more crucial than getting her number because it determines the outcome of the relationship. If you have had a solid interaction with her during the first interaction, there is a higher probability that she will follow up with you on a date. For example, if you had spoken to her for more than an hour, kissed her, held her hands for extended duration of time, or that you even had an instant date with her, then chances are, you will see her again.

On the other hand, if it the interaction was very rushed, happened in less than 5 minutes, and that you did not get to know each other very well, she will most likely flake. Flake meaning that she will lose her interests in you and will not be active in the interaction with you. As such, you need a solid text game to get out on a date in which you can get to know her more.

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Green, Orange or Red

Green means that the girl is highly receptive to you during text. This are mostly demonstrated through the following signals :

She replies quickly to your messages.
She replies long text messages.
She text you more than you text her.
She asks you what are you doing if you don’t reply her within a certain amount of time.
She hints on going out together.
She asks you to go out.
You ask her out and she agrees.
She rearranges the time of the date if she cannot make it to the first one.

In the green lane, you should call her immediately so as to setup a date with her while her memories of the interaction are still fresh. Memory decay will occur and if you take too long to ask her out, and she will lose interests. Calling her gives you the immediate power to arrange the venue and date instead of text, in which, can be more confusing to arrange.

For example :

Girl : hey, wassup
Boy : yozzzz! i am about to head down to an awesome coffee place
Girl : aww…that’s nice! where is it?
Boy : it is at clarke quay…how about u? what ya doing tonight!
Girl : nothing much…probably reading some books haha…
Girl : how about u?
Boy : alright! let’s go grab dinner tonight! i know a nice sushi place
Girl : sure! what time? say 7pm?

Boy calls her to arrange the time of the dinner. This is an example of a girl who is very receptive to his messages and advances. As such, very little work is required to get her on a date. This is usually the case if you know her well and have had deep conversation with her in the face to face interaction.

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Orange

Orange means that she is not yet ready to go out with her, and you will need a little work to get her out for a date. The signs of her being orange are usually as follow:

She replies equal amount of text messages as you do.
She mixes short and long messages.
She responds to you but not overly enthusiastic.
She does not over text you.
When you hint at going out, she does not bite.

The strategy to use in the Orange lane is to get her to the Green lane so that she becomes receptive and warmth. From there, you will then be able to get her out on a date. To do this, you have to hold on to style of texting that will demonstrate value to her to increase attraction towards you. Once the attraction has been increased, you will need to anchor the positive feelings to you so that she becomes more receptive to your texts. Once this is achieved, you can follow up by building more comfort with her over phone so that she will eventually come out on a date with you.

Attraction then Comfort

Attract her by demonstrating value through text first so as to get the tempo of the relationship higher. This will make her temporarily receptive, in which you can anchor the positive feelings quickly to stagnant the emotion.

For example:

Boy: Wow, I just had dinner with a beautiful place!
Girl: Where is it?
Boy: It is at Level 33, and the food is really good
Girl: Aww, I am so jealous

In this text conversation, very clearly, the boy is demonstrating higher value by displaying ability to access resources. Level 33 is a high end restaurant near Marina Bay Sands located in Singapore’s Central Business District.

Once the girl is attracted, you will have to anchor the positive feelings or to move on to building rapport because emotions are fleeting. At this juncture, you should ask her out on a date instead of dwelling on other subjects which will make her lose interests.

Red

Red are the ones that meant that the interaction was generally poor, and you will need perfect text game in order to get her out. If most of your numbers are falling into the red zone, you need to refine your game in the first interaction phase. The signs of her being Red in text are as follow:

She responds to your text, but takes time.
She texts you only in short messages.
She does not comply with your messages.
She might sometimes be rude to you.
She texts you she has a boyfriend.

In the Red lane, it is difficult to put yourself in an advantageous position as it can take a lot of time and effort. Despite the challenges ahead, it is still possible to change the probability by using the below methods. Although the most recommended solution to this is to ensure that you have superb body language and tonality during the interaction, there are still chances you can overcome this obstacle in the text.

Value is an illusion

You have to consistently demonstrate value through your text by implicitly portrayal of power. Values like being pre-selected by other women and an exciting lifestyle while maintaining non-neediness is essential to getting her attracted to you over text.

For example:

Boy: you wouldn’t believe what happened last night!
Girl: what?
Boy: i had the best pizza ever! filled with cheese, fresh from the oven, and totally delicious!
Girl: haha…nice
Boy: so what kind of trouble have u been causing? :p
Girl: nothing much
Boy: heading out with my friends to a fantastic bar tonight
Girl: enjoy
Boy: ciao~

As you can see from the conversation, she is not receptive to most messages. She texts significantly shorter than the boy and it is obvious she isn’t that interested. In fact, for girls who fall into the red lane, it requires days and even weeks of texting to get into a comfortable level before we can meet her again.

There will usually be follow up texts again in order to get her on a date. Below is the continued conversation with the girl.

Boy: hola~ como estas
Girl: what r u saying?
Boy: its spanish :p
Girl: im fine…u?
Boy: doing great! so whats ur gameplan this weekend?
Girl: probably hang out with friends
Boy: i can tell ure the mama hen of ur group
Girl: haha…yes, i take care of everyone
Boy: theres a fashion week this weekend for LV
Girl: nice
Boy: and i have to go there…accompany a friend
Girl: why unhappy?
Boy: its girls fashion…i hate it haha
Girl: i have never been to one

Boy now calls girl to let her know that his friend has an extra ticket for the show. After talking on the phone for half an hour building rapport and comfort, the girl complies and went for the show as well. As you can see from the text, it takes significant effort to try to get her interested. The conversation had a lot of value and it demonstrates to her that you are a cool guy to hang out with. This gives you a chance to build a connection with her.

No matter what the case is, if you like her, just text her and do not over think the situation. The more you think about the relationship, the more you will likely screw up the text. Be yourself and enjoy the process of the courtship.

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