Hi there. This might be a quite complicated story, but here goes...

For about three years ago, i met this extremely beautifull girl at a dating site. After we had talked for a while, she told me that she was about to delete her profile, because "she knew who she wanted", but he wasn't on this site. She also told me that she really wanted to keep in touch, so she gave me her facebook. This guy she was dating, turned up to be a real douche, and i stood up for her, and talked to her every day. After this, we built up this weird relationship, pretending to be married. As i had other girls i liked at that time, i didn't really take this too seriously, but yet again, we talked almost every day for half a year. We lost contact for a while, she got a boyfriend, and i didn't really think of her too much.

But she eventually contacted me again, and we continued to talk every single day. This time there was nothing romantical about it, as she was in a relationship. After a while she told me that they had broken up. From here on, our relationship grew really strong. She was really into me at this point, and it kinda freaked me out. I liked her, but she was moving forward so fast. After some time, we continued with this "online marriage" thing... But this time it was different, we both had real feelings for each other now. The feelings grew really strong, but we hadn't yet met in real life. It all went really well for a while, but she had gone from being the girl who missed me if we hadn't talked for a day, to not really needing this confirmation. So here i am now. She still refers to me as her boyfriend, and she still loves me, but i don't really feel like she has the same interest for me anymore.

This is where i think i went wrong; I put this girl on a high horse, gave her confirmation ALL the time. I was too shy to meet her, and she grew tired of waiting.

I dont really know where to go from here, guys... I really want things to work out with her, she is totally out of my league, but i still have her about where i want her... A couple of days ago, i recieved a message, where she told me she missed me. What do you think ? Should i make myself less available for her, make her miss me more ? How do i maintain her interest online ? I don't really want to meet her before i have worked more on my confidence and so on... You only get one chance with a girl like this, and i dont want to spoil it.

I know this was extremely compicated and badly written, but i hope there is somebody who can help me a bit here This girls feels like she is "the one"... If anything is unclear, please ask !

Man, you must have some terrible confidence issues if you're afraid to meet a chick you've been talking to for years.

Grab your balls meet up with her and don't be afraid to state the obvious "This is awkward." Basically the sooner you address the elephant in the room the sooner that awkwardness will be gone then you can joke about it and move on, feeling more comfortable around one another. One thing you can't have in your mind is shying away from closing her if you meet. Expect her to want a kiss regardless of what you think right now. Just imagine it as a given and don't be nervous about that aspect. Also, make sure you can meet up somewhere that's stress free and you can be alone or move to be alone. Maybe pick her up or go for a walk in a park and sit at a bench or something simple like that.

From there just generate attraction in person. If you don't meet up with her soon she's just going to find someone else and you'll be kicking yourself and worse yet... you'll be even worse off and needy, feeling cheated because she got with another guy and then you'll crave her attention and drive her further away from you.

Meet her.

Agree, agree, agree.

What keeps long distance relationships alive is very strong bonds. These bonds are rare to form, and even rarer to form online, so your best bet is meeting her ASAP.

I also like GamesSN idea of a date, to go for a walk. That's some relaxing activity. You two walking by, holding hands, laughing, then maybe you can go have an ice cream or something like that. Anything casual will do. And yeah, at some point you will want to kiss her. I don't recommend to wait with the kiss until "good bye" because that's the most likely time you're going to chicken out, also you will be constantly under increasing pressure, as time goes by. You don't want this. Instead, while you are walking you might just stop for a moment, look into her eyes, touch her face gently, and kiss her slowly. She wants it, bro!!

Good luck!

Peace,

In$tinct

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