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Too many selfies and change your username.
PHOTOS: Too many selfies makes the person look conceited and too wrapped up in themselves, and similarly, too many photos of just yourself does the same thing. Limit your photos to 4 or 5 max, and if you want to include a photo where you look sexy, only include ONE. For the rest, include one where you're having fun with friends, where you're with attractive girls, and where you're doing something cool. So keep the one where you're with girls (or a better one if you can find it, like where it's clear they're giving you attention, but kep it subtle), the one where you're surfing, and pick just one photo that makes you look attractive. Remember, these girls are going to judge the shit out of you based on your photos, so you better paint a lifestyle that they want to be a part of.
USERNAME: You're a good-lookin dude so you don't need a username that sounds like it's trying to sell you. "Buff Lad" sounds like the male equivalent of a female username like "BigTits45"... it's like the person is saying that they think best thing they have to offer is their body/tits... and that's not a positive thing to communicate.
"Sure, I could bore you with delusions of how wonderful I am, but
lets face it, I'm sure you've already read this about two hundred
times in all the other profiles... I believe that actions speak louder
than words, so why bother?"
Outing your competition to make you stand out like this might seem like a good tactic right off the bat, but in the end all you're doing is just *saying* you're a better catch rather than ***showing*** it.... this means not doing things like the above, but writing a profile that's really engaging.
For instance, I fuck around and curse a lot, so mine is written in the way of "Do you like movies? I fuckin love movies. We can watch the shit out of some movies together, or we can get drinks, or work out, or hike, play video games, hide-n-seek, or I don't have to talk to you at all. You wanna bungee jump? I've got a crippling fear of heights but let's fucking DO IT!"
Here, i'm subcommunicating that I have a sense of humor, don't take myself TOO seriously, and am open to new experiences (a.k.a. adventurous, which women love). The only reason that the cursing works is because I go totally overboard with it to the point of ridiculousness.
Other than that, you're good. Don't forget that the messages you send are equally if not more important than your profile.
I gave you almost this exact same advice a couple of months ago, and I see that you did make some changes which is a vast improvement over the old profile. But you didn't remove the "I Love Myself too Damn Much" pictures like I suggested. You need to show a fun active life in your photos, not explain it in your about me section. I would remove all of the pictures except the 1st three! Then add 2 more with some kinds of activities in a group if possible.
Change "I believe that actions speak louder than words, so why bother?" To "I believe that actions speak louder than words." because the "so why bother?" makes it seem like you don't go after what you want/not motivated.
Change your username to something like "Traveler_EightyEight" or "Surf_EightyEight", etc. And your headline to something a little more simple "Onions make me cry" or "Sushi = Amazing" or "Did you just touch my butt?", etc.
Can you give some examples of the openers you are using? Put a few different ones if you can so we can get an idea of your style.
Peace...
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