HOW TO BUILD ATTRACTION OVER TEXT
(a.k.a. Sexualizing Your Conversations)


I see a lot of guys here asking questions on how to build attraction in this or that conversation. Lately I've been seeing my conversations going sexual almost from the get-go, so I wanted to make a resource where we can all post our knowledge/examples of building attraction over text. I'm going to start this thing off with a couple posts of my own.

FYI, a lot of the lines I use are part of my general method, so they're usually not even context-specific.

This is a small conversation I had with a skinny 33 year old HB7-8 (hard to say, she only had 1 pic... also I'm 24) on POF last night. Note how it starts out a little stupid and inane, but once I establish some sexual tension (the pretend gf line) and flip the frame as if SHE'S the one chasing ME and build on it, she eats it up and the conversation gets sexual blisteringly fast.....

Side comments are included in (())s. The two lines I've colored in red are the backbone of my current attraction method. Used correctly and in tandem, they can be downright deadly in generating attraction.




ME: So how's the online dating going for ya? Meeting any potentials, or just creepers?

Oh, if you're thinking about not replying... Not to twist your arm, but if you don't, I'm making a voodoo doll of you. Then I'm gonna put headphones on it and make it listen to Justin Bieber all day! ((forgot who to credit for this, but it's a decent opener))


HER: Did you know that Justin Bieber is waterproof? ((no fucking idea, don't ask me))


ME: We should throw him in the ocean and test that theory


HER: Then we can find out if he also floats


ME: I'm more curious about the cost of your reliable lamp repair and chair maintenance ((reference to her headline))


HER: I work on barter for weird coffee mugs and old suitcases


ME: I like your style. I'm making you my new pretend internet girlfriend ((forgot who to credit but this is fucking GOLD))


HER: HAH wonderful


HER: I'm missing some teeth *shrugs and takes out dentures*


ME: Just as well... I don't kiss til date 20 or put out til date 50. I might hold your hand on date 3 ((this is also a great line/frame that's spectacular at generating attraction if used correctly... just watch))

HER: Ok ok fine, but can we at least have a milkshake with two straws on date 2


ME: Maybe. If you promise not to eyeball me like a piece of meat I'll even do the cutesy noses-touch thing with you


HER: I can't eyeball you like a piece of meat??? Deals off! I need my meat! I mean... What? Uh... Okay I'll be good


ME: See this is why I wear a chastity belt. I give you girls a kiss on date 20 and you jump my bones!


HER: I'm good at picking locks, you have to sleep sometime!


ME: Don't forget you're my pretend internet girlfriend... you'd get it if you just waited 50 dates, but nooo, you can't wait that long


HER: One date an hour for 50 hours?


ME: I don't know... depends on if you call me day after ((notice how I don't explicitly say the word "sex" or use any charged words at all... it's too early in the convo for that. All I do is imply to the IDEA of sex, even though I could have been referring to her calling me after the date or something else... but the way I worded it takes her mind straight to sex))


HER: I promise. I'm going to want more after all ((!))


ME: Fine fine, but you better make it good. 50% of the girls who call themselves "submissive lovers" are really just lazy


HER: There is nothing lazy about me. I am a hungry animal, and I'm only submissive if you bring me to my knees with unbridled lust...


ME: I hope you can walk the walk... What's the most adventurous thing you have done with a guy? ((credit to GKS, this is a money line for rocketing forward in sexualizing the convo if you've already got a bit of sexual tension going))


HER: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA where do I begin? Easier to answer what I haven't done! I am an overwhelming lover who pushes boundaries...


HER: You answer first so I can gauge this conversation! LOL


After that, it's just me grabbing her SPAM name (according to her, she can't text from her phone). Looking over it now, I see there's several superfluous sentence I wrote up that I could have cut out and still achieved the same if not a better effect, but you get the idea.

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I actually said "nice" out loud when reading this.

Like it, well done. Bravo. Love the 'subtle' frame control.

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hey i used your opener and it's great in 24 hours i'm having 3 convos with people.


i just ended a 2 hour convo with this

lil_steph

"No way...we're in this together its half each... lol. Obviously the straw quantities has always been an underlying issue in your mind.

You make me giggle quite frequently...
But unfortunately I'm going to have to bid you goodnight as I've got to get up in 4 hours for work
But we can continue this tomorrow if you're around....? X"

the straw thing has been going through the convo like crazy. it's awesome!! it's like the number of straws are an indicator to how things are going haha.

The straw thing was brought up by the girl, not me. Care to give an example of what you mean?

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Thanks man

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I'm definitely going to steal a few of these lines! Thanks!

Haha, bro I actually just used this for shits and giggles on POF, and literally there was some 30 year old woman that just message me, "you got me singin' like justin bieber baby baby baby oh!"

Hey, Extremely interesting post. I'm new to this and tried your technique. I am wondering, where was your A2? I see that you use humor & make her chase you and then qualify her, but can you please describe how to DHV/ create attraction/ get her chasing you.


For instance, I had a girl give me three qualities why I should get to know her,
she gave me 4

Her:
"1. I'm not like other girls from what I have been told
2. Kinda an adrenaline junky
3. I care to much about everyone else
4. I've always been a jokester with good morals, and I enjoy life haha Idk what to say lol"

Me: " Already going above and beyond? Alright supastar I like what I'm hearing, but in what way are you not like other girls?

Her: "I don't know you would have to figure it out yourself "

Me: " I like your style. I'm making you my new pretend internet girlfriend."

Her: "Okay lol sounds good to me "

Me: "Good! Now that we're in agreement, you should probably know I don't kiss until date 20 or put out until date 50. I might hold your hand on date 3

Her: That is perfectly okay with me

I don't think in terms of A1, A2, etc.... I just talk with them, run attraction and comfort, joke around, have fun.

If you look at her messages in comparison to yours, hers are much shorter. In general, you never want yours to be longer than hers, or it looks try-hard. So even though you're running the part of the conversation that gets her to chase you, your longer messages are subcommunicating some neediness, which directly contradicts what you're saying.

Try shortening your messages to no more than the length of hers, or barely more.

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It worked for RedBaron because he started out with a funny and playful opener, hence the vibe carried on throughout the whole conversation. In your case, you started out by qualifying her. She was indeed interested so she replied and even gave you an extra one to work with.

This is where it went wrong, instead of listen and make the conversation more fun and more about her. You made it all about you, you didn't follow up with the interesting information she GAVE you but instead of started qualifying her again with the "in what way are you not like other girls?". I like this girl, she was nice enough to reply again. It went okay then you couldn't gauge the interaction and threw in another cocky and funny line while not being FUNNY the whole conversation. Instead when she read it, it was just pure cocky for her. Hence, you see the immediately change in her attitude and response. No more emotion and IOIs, just left you with "That is perfectly okay with me".

The key thing to remember is what works other doesn't necessary work for you since everyone's personality and frame are different. So don't copy it word to word, change it up, test it out and make it congruent with your frame. It's also important to learn to listen, you will realize there are so many things you'd miss by focusing too much on yourself. Once you've gotten good at it, you will be able to gauge people and the interaction and act accordingly.

Lastly, try to enjoy the attraction rather than focusing too much on the steps and routines.

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I've really got to give you credit RedBaron, for months I was literally getting NO traction from POF, and stuff like craigslist. And the woman I was talking to last night who I thought went cold just texted me back. I might have screwed up with this one, but this stuff is GOLD. I've literally sent only about 10 messages and got 4 replies, a 40% ratio is boss. Plus a number close, though I'm skeptical that it'll go anywhere. For the most part I'm apathetic about whether or not I have sex. I'm not expected to lay most of them, but this is certainly an interesting turn of events. I feel that my first lay will be from some sort of electronic medium. At any rate, I just wanted to thank you tremendously for giving me insight into my problems on POF. I literally just switched up my profile message, and changed how I opened on greetings, and PRESTO! I literally got women out of the blue. This literally shows that something tiny and minute could be the problem holding you back. This is certainly a lesson.

Just tested this one, sent out to five HB7+ ... got a reply from HB 8.5 after about 10 min. I'm thinking it was a shit test, let me know what you think of my response.


Me: (opener)

HB8.5: I like Biebs

Me: Smart move not including that tid-bit in your profile... -5 cool points right there, think you can win them back?

Glad you found this useful, man.

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It's not a shit test... those girls just really do have shit taste in music. In my experience, the conversation never goes far with these kinds... they tend to give one-word answers or aren't smart enough to understand when you're joking with them.

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This stuff is gold bro. I'm stumped with what I should say for my next line on this girl...Tips?
Coded for obvious reasons...Still learning that. Ideas?