I have posted the same one on "Closing and Day 2’s" Hope you guys don't mind, I just need some advice on how to deal with girl who went cold after the first date. Thanks.

Everything seem to be going well, I met this girl on a dating site, went on a date with her on Saturday. We had a lot of fun (went ice skating, walking around the beach) getting to know each other then of course kiss close for the night. It was a cute date. (I was wrapping my arms around her while we wait for the bus to come). However I think I made a huge mistake that I forgot to arrange for another meeting.

So at the same night after the date, I told her to text me when she gets home, which she did and since she told me she's not big on texting and I was still on the train so I told her that I'll give her a call when I get home, no response from her but I called her anyway trying to set up another date. She didn't pick up the phone and I just leave it like that.

It's been two days now since the date, I haven't hear anything from her and I can still see her go online on that dating site. I was thinking maybe text her something funny tomorrow night and then call her after that to see if she's interesting to go out again. Is there anything I should be aware of on the phone conversation? It would be really nice if someone can give me any advice to handle my situation. Thank you so much, cheers.

First of all nice job dude. I think the problem here is you're too concentrated on her. You see what happens is when you're very concentrated on one girl you put a lot of pressure on yourself. In doing so you always think of the outcome and if the outcome is not as you desired you get upset and ruin your mood. It's like taking shooting the last shot in the basketball game when your losing by one point, you're more likely to mess up than on a regular shot.

What you have to do is find more girls while you talk to this girl and game both of them at the same time, the more the better. Concerning this girl it seems like she's interested in you and she asked you to call her so give her a call and don't text.

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Give us an update if you have one, OP.

As far as this situation, you did well by not contacting her for a few days afterwards. You might have come off a bit too eager by texting and the calling the same night of the date without her responding in between. Remember that no matter how well a first date goes, it's still just a first date. It's easy to get excited about things like that (I always do) but you don't want to come off too excited about it.

If you've already given it two days before calling her again (I wouldn't risk any more than that), then you should be fine.

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